Ya know, it's funny. Guys...or at least me...think sort of the same way.
I've come to reason that you shouldn't predict someone's motives based on any form of text messaging unless it's stupidly obvious. So if you want to invite him to the concert, do it straight up and without crypticism.
I always try to send as little Facebook messages as possible with the endgoal of making ME not seem desperate. These delusions, however, are just self-conscious chains holding us back from trying to get across the point we want to make. He won't think you sound desperate if your message doesn't sound that way, and if he's interested he will take you up on the invite.
If he doesn't respond or has an excuse, don't worry about it. And besides, you DO have his number...do it the old fashioned way and actually give him a call. If he doesn't answer, leave a voicemail. There's no harm in that, but remember, no matter what the media of communication, it's all about your TONE.
Oh no trust me, I just want to be friends with him now since I don't know him well. Also I do understand that text messages are worthless. It takes me a while to get back to a person through text messages.
I also personally hate using facebook unless I don't have the persons number. I don't get why people contact me in facebook instead by phone when they do have my number and it's always guys through private messages.
I agree with Musician please don't be so vague about it, he is just looking at it from a practical perspective which might seem insensitive but will probably be logical in the end (for him at least). Even though you are unsure of this particular situation you don't seem like someone with self-esteem issues, so just be honest and put yourself out there and you will find out soon enough. If he keeps being distant you will at least have peace of mind. When guys do such stuff they are pervs and pathetic, but if women know what they want and go for it they are confident ;)
Well with that attitude you are surely better off really knowing what he feels.
Obviously there could be a million reasons why he didn't reply or show assertiveness yet, but if he really doesn't care (if that's the case it should be clear soon enough) don't take it personal, it's a chemistry thing. (unless you are a real beast to look at, which I am not assuming for the sake of the problem at hand:P)
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Ya know, it's funny. Guys...or at least me...think sort of the same way.
I've come to reason that you shouldn't predict someone's motives based on any form of text messaging unless it's stupidly obvious. So if you want to invite him to the concert, do it straight up and without crypticism.
I always try to send as little Facebook messages as possible with the endgoal of making ME not seem desperate. These delusions, however, are just self-conscious chains holding us back from trying to get across the point we want to make. He won't think you sound desperate if your message doesn't sound that way, and if he's interested he will take you up on the invite.
If he doesn't respond or has an excuse, don't worry about it. And besides, you DO have his number...do it the old fashioned way and actually give him a call. If he doesn't answer, leave a voicemail. There's no harm in that, but remember, no matter what the media of communication, it's all about your TONE.
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Oh no trust me, I just want to be friends with him now since I don't know him well. Also I do understand that text messages are worthless. It takes me a while to get back to a person through text messages.
I also personally hate using facebook unless I don't have the persons number. I don't get why people contact me in facebook instead by phone when they do have my number and it's always guys through private messages.
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I agree with Musician please don't be so vague about it, he is just looking at it from a practical perspective which might seem insensitive but will probably be logical in the end (for him at least). Even though you are unsure of this particular situation you don't seem like someone with self-esteem issues, so just be honest and put yourself out there and you will find out soon enough. If he keeps being distant you will at least have peace of mind. When guys do such stuff they are pervs and pathetic, but if women know what they want and go for it they are confident ;)
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Awe. Thanks. Yeah I know I don't have a bad self-esteem. I sure do care about myself but not to the extent where I don't care about others either.
But yes. I guess it would be better to find out if he wouldn't answer back to me or not if I bother to call him.
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Well with that attitude you are surely better off really knowing what he feels.
Obviously there could be a million reasons why he didn't reply or show assertiveness yet, but if he really doesn't care (if that's the case it should be clear soon enough) don't take it personal, it's a chemistry thing. (unless you are a real beast to look at, which I am not assuming for the sake of the problem at hand:P)