Is it normal i feel no different in a tidy house than a messy one?

I always feel better when I go 2 the tiddy house personly. My wife has gotten rlly out of hand and refuses 2 clean the trailer if I won't put my guns up so I escape my problems by havin a fist full of kratom and leavin the messy trailer 2 go to the tiddy house 2 smoke crack and look at crack whore tiddies

When I was younger, I felt completely fine with my very cluttered and messy (not dirty, but extremely disorganized) bedroom, unmade bed, etc. and always rolled my eyes when my parents told me that something as simple as making my bed would create a better start to my day, and that having a neater space would lead to being more organized in the rest of my life, as well as feeling better about myself.

Lo and behold, several years later in my mid-20's, it's now ringing true. I now just don't feel right if I don't make my bed (I know it sounds silly), and it drives me absolutely nuts to have junk lying around or to not put things back where they belong and have them lying out. Don't ask me what changed, but it did. I just feel stressed living in a mess, and don't feel good about myself. I like to take pride in my house and keep it nice.

There's also the fact that I now like knowing where everything is in my house and keeping things organized so that I never have to dig for anything, and I just feel like life is easier and I have things "together" more when my space is reasonably neat (my house doesn't look like a model home because I do live in it, but I don't have tons of stuff lying around or cluttered messes, either) and I do simple things to prepare for my day and make living in my house easier and more pleasant.

I agree with the other comments here as well that there is definitely a middle ground between absolutely spotless and a chaotic mess, and that reasonably neat is the way to go. Sometimes there will be a reasonable amount of clutter in certain spaces, but when your desk is so covered in papers you lose bills and important documents, stuff like that, is when it gets out of control.

It's a degree of cleanliness & clutter thing.

There is a range from Spotless to Absolute Filthy in regards to cleanliness.

There is a related range for "Clutter" from Perfectly Neat to Completely Disorganized.

It is true that seeing a "dirty" room that is overly cluttered from an organization standpoint is depressing and that people do feel better if they improve on that.

On the other hand the most productive and successful people just have "reasonably clean" and "somewhat cluttered" households as they find it more productive to do other things other than clean and organize the house.

If you come into my house you will find reasonably clean rooms, but, not even close to spotless (unless its really a special occasion), and you will find a certain amount of clutter as well (and the basement is well cluttered, shall we say).

I did a deep bedroom clean out over December, including throwing out 6 bin bags worth of junk. I do feel a bit better in my organised room, especially seeing the sun on the clear surfaces in the morning, but it didn’t fix my life. I also leave small messes be sometimes, life is too short to constantly be cleaning. Basically you’re normal for being unbothered by little things OP.

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