Is it normal i feel like this?

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On the 12th of July my mum passed away, we had her funeral on the 17th. She had MND (it's the same thing Steven Hawking has) for over 2 and a half years. I cried at the funeral, and since then I've felt sad for a few minutes maybe twice but the rest of the time I've just felt relieved/glad. Even when people bring it up I don't feel particularly sad about it. I feel really horrible because I don't want people to think I don't care about my mum, because I do. Idk why I feel glad/relieved.

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  • Ellenna
    6 years ago

    That sounds very normal to me: death of someone close almost always brings up different and often contradictory feelings. I felt pretty much the same when my mum died: she was old and had lots of things wrong with her and had been saying for years that she wanted to go.

    I learned a long time ago that however we do grief is the right way for us at the time, unless (as it often does) that involves inappropriate anger directed at other people.

    Take care of yourself, remind yourself that your mum isn't suffering any more and wouldn't want you to feel guilty that you're relieved about that.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      Even though I don't feel very sad about it when people bring it up?

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      • Ellenna
        6 years ago

        However you feel is fine: I reckon you would've done a lot, maybe most of your grieving before your mum died - you don't have to feel guilty that you're not feeling deep grief now.

        Feeling glad and relieved that she's no longer suffering is totally normal. It's still less than a month since your mum died and your feelings will change over time.

        Please re-read the last sentence of my previous post and just give yourself time and take care of yourself..

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