Is it normal i feel guilty and embarrassed about being wealthy?

For lack of a better category I'm putting this under Ethics & Morality.

I am in no way rich like the people featured in "Lifestyles of the Rich & Famous". I'm just well-off and have no need to deprive myself from the things I want and love to do. To make it clear, I couldn't afford and also have no interest in buying luxury bags, watches or cars, for example. I can afford things like travel, some 'regular' nice things I want to buy and I can make donations to charities or individuals I care for. I'm pretty simple and frugal, to be truthful.

I'm very thankful for it but at the same time I feel embarrassed by it. For instance, when I go to a store and I realize someone is just trying to push things on me I feel bad that they are doing it because they depend on their commission and that they would never get whatever it is I'm getting without spending at least half their salary on it.

I think this is partly a matter of me being constantly aware of social classes and stratification. I also feel embarrassed when it comes to friends and coworkers knowing about or seeing things that I do or own. I can't hide everything and I try not to flaunt any of it but it's impossible to hide everything.

This is one of the few places where I can ask this question so I ask that you please don't make it a matter of ostentation. I would really like some honest answers. I'm sorry if I haven't worded it properly. If there are any doubts I'll gladly answer.

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  • kelili

    I understand how you feel. I remember when I was travelling with a bunch of people from other countries I quickly realised that I was better off than most of them. And I aslo realised that financially I was better off than most people here. But I'm definitely not rich. I do feel guilty. No, it's not guilt, I feel that it is really unfair that some people have to try harder. When you look about the eduaction system you realise that from the beginning some of us are doomed to struggle all their life.

    I try to do what I can to bring soome change to society because the problem will not be solved by giving to charities but the whole system must be changed.

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  • Boojum

    We're all where we are due to the roll of the dice. Anyone who believes they are wealthy purely through their own hard work and native talent is deluded. Anyone who believes that all poor people could become wealthy if they just buckled down and worked harder is living in a fantasy world.

    If Steve Jobs had been born 300 years earlier, he probably would have spent his life hunched over a watchmaker's workbench and gone home to his hovel to eat gruel for dinner. If he'd been born in some African village, he might have spent his life tending goats. If he hadn't been given up for adoption, he almost certainly would have turned out to be a very different sort of person, and he may well have not been as driven (and generally obnoxious) as an adult.

    As long as you aren't where you are due to deception and deliberate abuse and exploitation of others, there's no reason for you to feel guilty. We live in the system we do, and the dice have happened to roll your way - so far. You may roll snake eyes tomorrow, and lose it all. That happens far more often than most people are comfortable thinking about.

    Enjoy your life, be grateful for what you have, don't be a dick, treat people with as much respect as you can, and remember the old adage about how you should be nice to everyone you meet on the way up, because you'll meet them all again on the way down.

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  • Meowypowers

    Then donate to charity. If you donate enough you can become poor and then you will have other problems.

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    • I don't want to be poor but I also wish everyone else wasn't either...

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  • JD777

    Quit bragging. I’m wealthy from my own hard work and don’t apologize to anyone or feel bad. Do the right thing with your money and quit squirming about it.

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  • sissycakes

    maybe you would be interested in going into sociology with a sect of class differences. it may make you feel worse or it could make you feel better. either way sociology, to me, is one of the most interesting subjects in the world

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  • Golias

    I feel the same way. I'm neither rich or poor, but I don't like wealth. The wealthiest persons I know give so little value to things it pisses me off.

    For example, I just recently had to buy a new phone. My old phone was 5 years old, but it still works flawlessly to this day. I treated that thing with so much care my friend were amazed to see that "brick" still being able to play popular games xD.

    I feel like money easily corrupts people. And even though not being a blessing, I'm thankful for not being wealthy: it taught me to give things way more value.

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  • megadriver

    Why be sorry, or feel guilty. You work, you make money, that's it. Enjoy life. Being rich is only bad, when you flaunt it and buy stupidly expensive clothes, or have a gold plated toilet...

    I wouldn't call myself rich, but I'm definitely well off...
    I'm the manager of a car dealership and I have my own cleaning/ gardening business. I live in a nice apartment with my girlfriend, I have 3 Mercedes and a 1980s BMW project car. Everything in my apartment is fairly new and all of my furniture is of higher quality (No ikea stuff)
    and I feel proud I can afford this stuff.

    I've worked for it, I have earned it and I can be proud of my achievements.

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  • RoseIsabella

    You don't have anything to feel guilty, or embarrassed about. I do think that you should be wary of people who are obviously jealous.

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  • Meowypowers

    Who cares? If you earned wealth then you should be proud. If you inherited it, just dont be a dick. Anyone that hates on you for that is jelly or just a negative person and bot worthy of your time, rich or poor.

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    • No one hates me for it, really. The matter is that I feel guilty and maybe "too fortunate".

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