You aren't a pedophile. I think your OCD has led you to become obsessed with the idea, and your attachment to video game characters that are depicted as underaged has given you grounds to allow your obsession to spiral.
The definition of pedophelia is pretty straightforward. It's a sexual attraction to prepubescent children. You don't seem to suffer from this, as I've seen you express an overall lack of desire for any sexual contact whatsoever.
Having said that, it's very obvious that due to your Aspergers and OCD, that you struggle quite a bit with defining what constitutes appropriate behavior when interacting with other people, including children. Even though you are, by definition, not suffering from pedophelia, you could still do damage working with children because of problems arising from your limited grasp on what is appropriate and acceptable behavior.
You might benefit from some counseling, which might help you learn exercises and tools to help you evaluate your behavior and decide if it is appropriate or not.
You are not a bad person who deserves to die. You have a disorder that makes it difficult for you to make decisions about what is and isn't ok, and it's up to you to decide to proactively compensate for that by putting in the extra effort to learn how, and that may include getting some help for your problem.
Wow, thank you very much for taking the time to write this, it's really helpful. I feel bad it had to be you because you are one the nice/coolest people on this site, and I'm really embarrassed you had to know all this as you are one of only people who's ever been nice to me here. i know it's really annoying to people that i always ask stuff like this but its just on my mind which is also annoying.
its a good point you make that i won't be good at the work due to the social ineptitude. i feel that way as well and its depressing, i think people are just being nice by not saying anything. but interacting with people isnt my main task so thats good just every now and then i have to talk with children and truthfully i have no idea how to. but they are ok due to children not being judgmental which is nice but also can be bad when someone should be judged.
i have done counselling but i am too embarrassed to tell anyone irl about all this stuff so it never really gets anywhere. i will try to go again. thank you for the reply, i really apreciate it, and i hope you are doing well..you are always a thoughtful& understanding person
Hey, please don't apologize, and don't be embarrassed. That's what this website was intended for before it turned to shit. I honestly don't think you should feel sorry for being worried about how you affect other people; more people should worry about that, including myself.
Fucking counseling doesn't work unless you're honest, which is the shittiest part of all, but anyone who's been through a battle with any type of mental disorder or emotional problem or drug problem or whatever will probably admit that the honesty part is the absolute shittiest part- being honest with yourself and then telling other people...it fucking sucks.
You aren't a bad shitty person, and trust me, I'd tell you if you were. You're just obsessively hard on yourself and you have some issues. Who here doesn't? Everyone on this site is fucking nuts. Just give yourself a break, recognize your shortcomings and get help for them. Your main problem is that you have no meter for what's appropriate- which is why I like you, but that's besides the point.
You have no need to be embarrassed or ashamed about anything, and your still one of my favorite users ; )
I'm glad I could help. You have your heart in the right place, and you don't deserve to feel depressed or suicidal. Your tendency to say awesomely inappropriate stuff is funny and endearing in the right context, like on a forum for adults, but it could cause you major problems in other areas of life.
Unfortunately, you got the short end of the stick. Something that comes naturally to other people (reading social cues) is gonna require a little extra work for you, but I know it's something that you can get past. There are so many people with autism that learn the skills they need to live successful lives.
As long as you're careful and aware, I'm sure you'll do great. Congrats on your new job. I'm really happy for you!
IIN I feel bad about pretending to be normal?
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You aren't a pedophile. I think your OCD has led you to become obsessed with the idea, and your attachment to video game characters that are depicted as underaged has given you grounds to allow your obsession to spiral.
The definition of pedophelia is pretty straightforward. It's a sexual attraction to prepubescent children. You don't seem to suffer from this, as I've seen you express an overall lack of desire for any sexual contact whatsoever.
Having said that, it's very obvious that due to your Aspergers and OCD, that you struggle quite a bit with defining what constitutes appropriate behavior when interacting with other people, including children. Even though you are, by definition, not suffering from pedophelia, you could still do damage working with children because of problems arising from your limited grasp on what is appropriate and acceptable behavior.
You might benefit from some counseling, which might help you learn exercises and tools to help you evaluate your behavior and decide if it is appropriate or not.
You are not a bad person who deserves to die. You have a disorder that makes it difficult for you to make decisions about what is and isn't ok, and it's up to you to decide to proactively compensate for that by putting in the extra effort to learn how, and that may include getting some help for your problem.
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Wow, thank you very much for taking the time to write this, it's really helpful. I feel bad it had to be you because you are one the nice/coolest people on this site, and I'm really embarrassed you had to know all this as you are one of only people who's ever been nice to me here. i know it's really annoying to people that i always ask stuff like this but its just on my mind which is also annoying.
its a good point you make that i won't be good at the work due to the social ineptitude. i feel that way as well and its depressing, i think people are just being nice by not saying anything. but interacting with people isnt my main task so thats good just every now and then i have to talk with children and truthfully i have no idea how to. but they are ok due to children not being judgmental which is nice but also can be bad when someone should be judged.
i have done counselling but i am too embarrassed to tell anyone irl about all this stuff so it never really gets anywhere. i will try to go again. thank you for the reply, i really apreciate it, and i hope you are doing well..you are always a thoughtful& understanding person
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Hey, please don't apologize, and don't be embarrassed. That's what this website was intended for before it turned to shit. I honestly don't think you should feel sorry for being worried about how you affect other people; more people should worry about that, including myself.
Fucking counseling doesn't work unless you're honest, which is the shittiest part of all, but anyone who's been through a battle with any type of mental disorder or emotional problem or drug problem or whatever will probably admit that the honesty part is the absolute shittiest part- being honest with yourself and then telling other people...it fucking sucks.
You aren't a bad shitty person, and trust me, I'd tell you if you were. You're just obsessively hard on yourself and you have some issues. Who here doesn't? Everyone on this site is fucking nuts. Just give yourself a break, recognize your shortcomings and get help for them. Your main problem is that you have no meter for what's appropriate- which is why I like you, but that's besides the point.
You have no need to be embarrassed or ashamed about anything, and your still one of my favorite users ; )
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Aww ♥️
Yeah it does suck but I feel a lot better now *hugs*
You should be a psychologist :)
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I'm glad I could help. You have your heart in the right place, and you don't deserve to feel depressed or suicidal. Your tendency to say awesomely inappropriate stuff is funny and endearing in the right context, like on a forum for adults, but it could cause you major problems in other areas of life.
Unfortunately, you got the short end of the stick. Something that comes naturally to other people (reading social cues) is gonna require a little extra work for you, but I know it's something that you can get past. There are so many people with autism that learn the skills they need to live successful lives.
As long as you're careful and aware, I'm sure you'll do great. Congrats on your new job. I'm really happy for you!
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