I understand. In my early 20's I learned a big lesson about "beggars", and one that I still use. The common statement then was along the line of... could you spare some change - I haven't eaten yet today.
I started to offer to take them to a nearby restaurant and I'd buy them a meal. I've only had 3 people in about 4 decades take me up on that... and I gladly took the time and spent the money to have lunch or supper with them.... they were usually so grateful (and they did eat like someone who was starving). I'd then slipped them a $20 as well at that point for the next few days...
As for the rest.... you would not believe how angry many of them got.
Part 2 of the story is that I do try to assist people by mentoring them. Giving people who cannot handle money is like giving alcohol to an alcoholic. Show me someone who is willing to work to improve themselves and keep their words and commitments to me... and I'll show you someone I will assist. Every one of those has significantly improved their lives within a few months and no longer needed help (I've done this with about 30 people).
Is it normal I expect a service, in exchange for money?
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I understand. In my early 20's I learned a big lesson about "beggars", and one that I still use. The common statement then was along the line of... could you spare some change - I haven't eaten yet today.
I started to offer to take them to a nearby restaurant and I'd buy them a meal. I've only had 3 people in about 4 decades take me up on that... and I gladly took the time and spent the money to have lunch or supper with them.... they were usually so grateful (and they did eat like someone who was starving). I'd then slipped them a $20 as well at that point for the next few days...
As for the rest.... you would not believe how angry many of them got.
Part 2 of the story is that I do try to assist people by mentoring them. Giving people who cannot handle money is like giving alcohol to an alcoholic. Show me someone who is willing to work to improve themselves and keep their words and commitments to me... and I'll show you someone I will assist. Every one of those has significantly improved their lives within a few months and no longer needed help (I've done this with about 30 people).