If it has already not happened: Don't let them move in, not even for a single night (people like this are very difficult to remove once they are in your dwelling). You need to be able to tell them that you are not interested in them anymore... and that they should go back to the shelter to find help again (see more comments at the end of this post).
If they have already moved in then you need to kick them out. People from the homeless shelter may be able to assist with that. Other friends, etc. The police will do it if you have no other help (and will likely take him to a homeless shelter).
There are people in this world that will leach off of you forever if you let them; and they have no desire to improve themselves.
You have to be strong and kick them out, and make it clear that you do not want to associate with them.
IF they ask you why? Tell them that you tried to assist them to do better in life... and you turned that offer down. You have no further interest in them after that. You are only looking for people who clearly demonstrates that they wish to improve themselves and stand on their own (and not leach from others). That would be an honest answer.
If after being kicked out, or told to stay away they continue to bother you; there are several choices: Restraining order (which they may not follow) or to move to another location - and they do not know where you are (Talk to your landlord about this - oftentimes they have multiple properties or know of other landlords that may be able to assist in such a transition).
Can I get a restrianing order if I do not have thier full name? They keep leaving viocemails saying streets they saw me on. I keep blocking thier number but they do not want to leave me be. They can not move into my new place. I am the one on the lease, not them.
You can identify the issue to the police and ask them to talk to him (call the non-emergency number). Most police departments will do so although it may take a few days. The police can also then likely provide you with his full name and likely address.
They may also be able to provide other suggestions that are appropriate to your local community (different communities have different resources).
I'd also suggest that you change your phone number - and do not leave a forwarding number. You can notify your friends, family, employer, etc. of the new number after you get it.
Keep a positive attitude... and if nothing else works... just ignore him.
I understand. You can still get a restraining order in most countries.
Another option is that if you get a little $ ahead... move elsewhere (only don't make it obvious). I have done several moves where all I took with me was an overnight travel bag... (as if I'm visiting a friend or going on a business trip) and returned later (at different times) to recover more of my stuff. No massive move to catch their attention.
The several times I did it I could afford to pay a few weeks of double rent - and once a month.
IIN I dropped my homeless freind?
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If it has already not happened: Don't let them move in, not even for a single night (people like this are very difficult to remove once they are in your dwelling). You need to be able to tell them that you are not interested in them anymore... and that they should go back to the shelter to find help again (see more comments at the end of this post).
If they have already moved in then you need to kick them out. People from the homeless shelter may be able to assist with that. Other friends, etc. The police will do it if you have no other help (and will likely take him to a homeless shelter).
There are people in this world that will leach off of you forever if you let them; and they have no desire to improve themselves.
You have to be strong and kick them out, and make it clear that you do not want to associate with them.
IF they ask you why? Tell them that you tried to assist them to do better in life... and you turned that offer down. You have no further interest in them after that. You are only looking for people who clearly demonstrates that they wish to improve themselves and stand on their own (and not leach from others). That would be an honest answer.
If after being kicked out, or told to stay away they continue to bother you; there are several choices: Restraining order (which they may not follow) or to move to another location - and they do not know where you are (Talk to your landlord about this - oftentimes they have multiple properties or know of other landlords that may be able to assist in such a transition).
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Can I get a restrianing order if I do not have thier full name? They keep leaving viocemails saying streets they saw me on. I keep blocking thier number but they do not want to leave me be. They can not move into my new place. I am the one on the lease, not them.
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You can identify the issue to the police and ask them to talk to him (call the non-emergency number). Most police departments will do so although it may take a few days. The police can also then likely provide you with his full name and likely address.
They may also be able to provide other suggestions that are appropriate to your local community (different communities have different resources).
I'd also suggest that you change your phone number - and do not leave a forwarding number. You can notify your friends, family, employer, etc. of the new number after you get it.
Keep a positive attitude... and if nothing else works... just ignore him.
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They dont have an adress. They live in thier car.
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I understand. You can still get a restraining order in most countries.
Another option is that if you get a little $ ahead... move elsewhere (only don't make it obvious). I have done several moves where all I took with me was an overnight travel bag... (as if I'm visiting a friend or going on a business trip) and returned later (at different times) to recover more of my stuff. No massive move to catch their attention.
The several times I did it I could afford to pay a few weeks of double rent - and once a month.
You'll get through this.
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I cant move.
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I have faith that in the future you will be doing better - and will be able to move.
As long as he is not a direct physical threat you have time to find a future solution.
I wish you the best...