Is it normal i dream about making love with my best friend?

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Ok so I've known my best friend for 4 years now and while I was dating another guy, my best friend (M) fell in love with me. An I liled him to but I was in a relationship so I never dated him. Well my ex an I broke up an M an I tried dating but it only lasted a week cuz I felt like I wasnt ready yet. Now its been 2 years an him an I are hangin out more than ever an I know he loves me by the way he looks at me, treats me, an says it. I feel like I love him but but im still hurt by my last relationship. Even though, I keep day dreamin about, not fucking, but makin love with M. Weve never had sex before, but one time we were tipsy an he had his hands in my pants (it was a very long night an we had raging emotions an we ended up playin around but not out of lust). I have only had sex with one person before (my ex) an I dont know if I should give myself to another person, but I have the biggest urge to. My question is, is it ok to have sex with my best friend? Should I date him?

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  • ygrowup
    11 years ago | pl

    These best friend relationships sometime turn into very great couples! Give him a chance, or you may just regret someday that you didn't

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    • Rhuarc
      11 years ago | pl

      best friend relationships is the dreaded friend zone.

      Friend Zone>Death

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    11 years ago | pl

    the best relationship i ever had ... i was friends with him first and then we fell in love. i'm still with him. ;-)

    my mother's own advice - you should be best friends with someone when you marry them

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  • Jweezee
    11 years ago | pl

    First of all it's the first intercourse that's supposed to be special (usually not), not the second. Are you saving your post-virginity virginity for someone really deep? So, if you wanna do the guy don't let misplaced moral virtues stop you.

    And i can say from experience that a solid foundation of friendship prior to a romantic relationship is conducive to longterm compatibility.
    Romantic interest clouds judgement when appraising potential partners. And it sounds like this dude genuinely loves you, so you could do worse.

    Or, you could do the typical immature girl thing and say to hell with the "nice guy" and date Chaz the asshole wide reciever of the football team.

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  • Dozis
    11 years ago | pl

    fucking puritans.

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  • justinetld
    11 years ago | pl

    2 years and u aren't over ur ex? Maybe you aren't ready for any serious relationships

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  • Justin1015
    11 years ago | pl

    Do it, if it works you got a great partner

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  • turnoff2012
    11 years ago | pl

    Just do it and get it over with. Stop the attention whoring you recieve from the lonely friend! 2 years..................ya tell me thats not what your up to

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  • iamwhoisayiam
    11 years ago | pl

    I asked my besty to take my virginity. I think while emotions complicate friendships, id prefer to be touched the second time by someone who loves me. There have been lots of cases of besties who got married. I dated my bestie for 4 yrs we just weren't compatible but because of who we are we went back to friends but not best friends. When he dates he disappears till they split but his friends still tell me he never got over me and still compares the women he dates to me. We just had damage from miscommunication. My husband is a lot like him tho.

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  • rhastings88
    11 years ago | pl

    My suggestion would be to take things slow. Start dating, work your way up to sex.

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  • peterdenton
    11 years ago | pl

    Me too man don't know what to do about it. also my two best friends are going out so I fell worse when I want her because she would never go out with me in the first place also she is REALLY HOT

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  • ILY<3
    11 years ago | pl

    Go for it you might like it you wont know until you try

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  • ccjigsaw
    11 years ago | pl

    I think the reason your not over your ex after 2 years is because your so hung up on it still. Why would you still be hung up on it? Because its the most interesting thing thats happened to you since EVER. Start a new realtionship, you'll be surprised how much your ex doesn't mean to you afte ryou move on. Memories fade when new ones take their place.

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  • Tehboss
    11 years ago | pl

    just do it.

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  • Dozis
    11 years ago | pl

    how does love feel? Is it even a real emotion? Are you sure you just did not ran out of dickering and... well... want to go for the readiest easily available penis?
    If you are asking me what I would do, I wlill tell you:
    I'd never date him. I'd just have sex with him and it wouldn't change anything between us. Right? Right?
    Like: I really really feel like blowing you. Don't worry, it won't change anything between us! think of it as, fun casual sex. I just CRAVE sperm.
    Let's put it this way: if anyone finds out,we were drunk and didn't know what we were doing. Ok?

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