While reading this I thought it was an old post of mine. Man this is exactly what Im going through right now so I have done research and basically they say the people who claim they don't want friends are only saying that to themselves because in reality, they can't make friends so they just give up. But really, we desire that group of friends.
Sigh...its a complicated subject. One, there is NOTHING wrong with enjoying your own company! I do! and so much! Right now as I'm typing this, I am in my school's library where I have spent most of this semester. I know it sounds sad but honestly I love it here, I love having my own space here on the comp doing hw then just messing around and texting people. Sometimes I'm like yeah I wish there was something to do like go hang out with those people and have lunch or just act as kids should but when I get the opportunity I take it and at the end of the day, I prefer to be by myself. I think because I enjoy being by myself, I don't feel lonely being away from home. Even back at home, I talked to myself, hung out with myself, and basically became friends with myself. I'm learning I can seriously be by myself forever and have acquaintances here and there.
Two, the norm is to have friends and have fun so that makes being lonely abnormal but it isn't true. Society seems to flip what really matters to it doesn't matter at all. Yes it is important to socialize because as humans, we need someone to talk to, however, it isn't necessary to have millions of friends. Personally, I want a lot of friends but when it comes down to it, I step away so I think okay is that really what I want? after all, I'm a lot happier when I'm by myself and thinking about stuff. So make sure what you really want.
As long as you are happy with yourself, you'll be healthy and people will come to you because confidence and comfort are key. As I'm here in college, I am learning that I do like my distance as much as I wish I had that group of friends. So I am just being more accepting of the fact that I am an individual and am not meant to have super close friends and all that. So far, its been awkward with the majority of people here but oh f*cken well. Im not gonna stress too much about it but I'll try to be more normal? and you should, too. I really hope you start to think positively because being with yourself is too much fun, you're not missing out on much.
Is it normal I don't want friends?
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While reading this I thought it was an old post of mine. Man this is exactly what Im going through right now so I have done research and basically they say the people who claim they don't want friends are only saying that to themselves because in reality, they can't make friends so they just give up. But really, we desire that group of friends.
Sigh...its a complicated subject. One, there is NOTHING wrong with enjoying your own company! I do! and so much! Right now as I'm typing this, I am in my school's library where I have spent most of this semester. I know it sounds sad but honestly I love it here, I love having my own space here on the comp doing hw then just messing around and texting people. Sometimes I'm like yeah I wish there was something to do like go hang out with those people and have lunch or just act as kids should but when I get the opportunity I take it and at the end of the day, I prefer to be by myself. I think because I enjoy being by myself, I don't feel lonely being away from home. Even back at home, I talked to myself, hung out with myself, and basically became friends with myself. I'm learning I can seriously be by myself forever and have acquaintances here and there.
Two, the norm is to have friends and have fun so that makes being lonely abnormal but it isn't true. Society seems to flip what really matters to it doesn't matter at all. Yes it is important to socialize because as humans, we need someone to talk to, however, it isn't necessary to have millions of friends. Personally, I want a lot of friends but when it comes down to it, I step away so I think okay is that really what I want? after all, I'm a lot happier when I'm by myself and thinking about stuff. So make sure what you really want.
As long as you are happy with yourself, you'll be healthy and people will come to you because confidence and comfort are key. As I'm here in college, I am learning that I do like my distance as much as I wish I had that group of friends. So I am just being more accepting of the fact that I am an individual and am not meant to have super close friends and all that. So far, its been awkward with the majority of people here but oh f*cken well. Im not gonna stress too much about it but I'll try to be more normal? and you should, too. I really hope you start to think positively because being with yourself is too much fun, you're not missing out on much.