I don't think its ideal.
If you are 'friends' then you both may find it strange to get physically involved if your feelings are not for sexual attraction.
If you have sexual attraction (or at least one of you towards the other) then I feel you can't really just be friends.
Yes get to know eachother, but if a girl said to me she'd rather be friends first, I'd be thinking she's just not interested. I mean as a friend, does that mean she could start something with another guy at any time? Even if you are both out together as 'friends' only? I think that's gotta cut you a little, unless you are just friends!
If you feel for her more than friends, then let her know, and say let me know one day if you ever feel the same towards me. Until then I won't be able to be friends without thinking more of you. Then kiss her (cheek, or forehead) and walk away.
If you decide to stay friends with her in the hope that one day she'll see more in you. I think its unlikely she will. Some tiny possibility, or some major cut feelings when she does find someone during your friendship. Hello, you are JUST friends!
I agree with your points and my experience over the years is totally in accordance with what you say. That´s how it really works, at least in my life and from my viewpoint.
The worst part about getting old, is getting old!
Only option hang around younger generation and you'll feel young AND still have all the worldly experience of life.
Arr but that'll probably just get boring too, eventually.
Oh well such is life.
IIN I don't understand "friends first and see if something develops"
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I don't think its ideal.
If you are 'friends' then you both may find it strange to get physically involved if your feelings are not for sexual attraction.
If you have sexual attraction (or at least one of you towards the other) then I feel you can't really just be friends.
Yes get to know eachother, but if a girl said to me she'd rather be friends first, I'd be thinking she's just not interested. I mean as a friend, does that mean she could start something with another guy at any time? Even if you are both out together as 'friends' only? I think that's gotta cut you a little, unless you are just friends!
If you feel for her more than friends, then let her know, and say let me know one day if you ever feel the same towards me. Until then I won't be able to be friends without thinking more of you. Then kiss her (cheek, or forehead) and walk away.
If you decide to stay friends with her in the hope that one day she'll see more in you. I think its unlikely she will. Some tiny possibility, or some major cut feelings when she does find someone during your friendship. Hello, you are JUST friends!
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I agree with your points and my experience over the years is totally in accordance with what you say. That´s how it really works, at least in my life and from my viewpoint.
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The worst part about getting old, is getting old!
Only option hang around younger generation and you'll feel young AND still have all the worldly experience of life.
Arr but that'll probably just get boring too, eventually.
Oh well such is life.