I don't see any point in "competing" with other guys. Most girls don't care as much about stuff like that as some guys think they do, so there's really no point getting involved with it. A woman who would wait for men to compete over her without doing a thing herself to meet me halfway isn't very attractive to anyway, to me at least.
With my friend and a lot of girls I feel like they make men compete for them without thinking. Some probably do it to see who is willing to give them the most but that is probably a minority, hopefully. It's not as if she is egging different guys on to fight over her but the way she talks about all her different guy friends in front of me (I'm guessing she does the same with the others) makes me at least feel disinterested. It's like they want you to feel jealous but shouldn't love be honest and open and not envious and exclusive?
I'd guess that girls who let guys "compete" aren't actually looking for a relationship anyway. Of course, some girls will flirt back even when they aren't interested, which makes it hard to find out if they like you or if they are just habitually responding flirtatiously.
I'm maybe look elsewhere for a girlfriend, rather than a bar. Friends of friends are a good place to start.
Is it normal I don't try to compete with other guys for girls?
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I don't see any point in "competing" with other guys. Most girls don't care as much about stuff like that as some guys think they do, so there's really no point getting involved with it. A woman who would wait for men to compete over her without doing a thing herself to meet me halfway isn't very attractive to anyway, to me at least.
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With my friend and a lot of girls I feel like they make men compete for them without thinking. Some probably do it to see who is willing to give them the most but that is probably a minority, hopefully. It's not as if she is egging different guys on to fight over her but the way she talks about all her different guy friends in front of me (I'm guessing she does the same with the others) makes me at least feel disinterested. It's like they want you to feel jealous but shouldn't love be honest and open and not envious and exclusive?
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I'd guess that girls who let guys "compete" aren't actually looking for a relationship anyway. Of course, some girls will flirt back even when they aren't interested, which makes it hard to find out if they like you or if they are just habitually responding flirtatiously.
I'm maybe look elsewhere for a girlfriend, rather than a bar. Friends of friends are a good place to start.