I know exactly where you're coming from with punishments.
Punishments should be dealt out with care. A child who makes a small, simple error or mistake and doesn't get it explained to them how and why they were in error ("because I said so!"), but does get grounded and forced to sit and twiddle their thumbs in the kitchen for a month is probably going to feel frustrated and resentful. They'll probably come to see their parents as the enemy or end up with a low sense of self-esteem and confidence, never sure if their next action is going to incite another punishment.
Not only that but some of these punishments (using the grounded in the kitchen for a month example again) harm the child's mental development and possibly their physical health too. If a child is grounded all the time and has nothing to stimulate them and is made to sit all day that's really unhealthy, don't even need to explain why because everybody knows.
I do think kids need to learn the hard way sometimes, but some punishments are illogical and don't teach the child anything.
Is it normal I don't punish my kids?
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I know exactly where you're coming from with punishments.
Punishments should be dealt out with care. A child who makes a small, simple error or mistake and doesn't get it explained to them how and why they were in error ("because I said so!"), but does get grounded and forced to sit and twiddle their thumbs in the kitchen for a month is probably going to feel frustrated and resentful. They'll probably come to see their parents as the enemy or end up with a low sense of self-esteem and confidence, never sure if their next action is going to incite another punishment.
Not only that but some of these punishments (using the grounded in the kitchen for a month example again) harm the child's mental development and possibly their physical health too. If a child is grounded all the time and has nothing to stimulate them and is made to sit all day that's really unhealthy, don't even need to explain why because everybody knows.
I do think kids need to learn the hard way sometimes, but some punishments are illogical and don't teach the child anything.