There was a similar case a while back with a girl about a year older, i'll basically just copy/paste one part here:
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factually, in this age, it's almost impossible to tell.
Girls who become wild lesbians 10 years later will have silent crushes on guys and act all shy.
Others will experiment with their girlfriends but end up marrying a guy as virgin a couple years later.
It's a time of hormonal crazyness, and everything goes, and being confused about one's own "orientation" is normal.
So a girl-crush, even if it turns into a sleepover with homosexual experimentation, nowhere near suggests that she either will be bisexual or a lesbian later on.
Neither does it mean that a girl that goes through this phase without even thinking about another girl theoretically will end up being straight later.
:)
So ya, it's her hormones being crazy and at her age, it's impossible to tell ANYTHING for sure.
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As for what to tell her, it's hard to say. A whole lot would depend on her own personality as well as that of her friend.
I know her situation well. I decided to keep silent and the crush to myself. Did i regret it? Kinda, but i was afraid of all the things that could go wrong.
While bi- or homosexuality is way more accepted nowadays, she'd still get people either verbally assaulting her, telling her she's just confused, avoiding her, the whole thing.
While i think everybody should be free to be themselves, in some cases it's not worth paying the price...but thats a case-to-case decision, and not a universal truth. It's a fact that many will see her as a "kid" though, and kids can't even consent, so will never be taken serious about their sexual choices...that changes only with age.
I'd say go with your instincts, and above all, be there as a friend she can confide in. Don't do things like avoid her just because you don't know how to handle it or what to tell her. If i know one thing, then that she needs someone to be with her on this, no matter how it turns out.
Is it normal I don't know what to tell my little cousin
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There was a similar case a while back with a girl about a year older, i'll basically just copy/paste one part here:
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factually, in this age, it's almost impossible to tell.
Girls who become wild lesbians 10 years later will have silent crushes on guys and act all shy.
Others will experiment with their girlfriends but end up marrying a guy as virgin a couple years later.
It's a time of hormonal crazyness, and everything goes, and being confused about one's own "orientation" is normal.
So a girl-crush, even if it turns into a sleepover with homosexual experimentation, nowhere near suggests that she either will be bisexual or a lesbian later on.
Neither does it mean that a girl that goes through this phase without even thinking about another girl theoretically will end up being straight later.
:)
So ya, it's her hormones being crazy and at her age, it's impossible to tell ANYTHING for sure.
-----
As for what to tell her, it's hard to say. A whole lot would depend on her own personality as well as that of her friend.
I know her situation well. I decided to keep silent and the crush to myself. Did i regret it? Kinda, but i was afraid of all the things that could go wrong.
While bi- or homosexuality is way more accepted nowadays, she'd still get people either verbally assaulting her, telling her she's just confused, avoiding her, the whole thing.
While i think everybody should be free to be themselves, in some cases it's not worth paying the price...but thats a case-to-case decision, and not a universal truth. It's a fact that many will see her as a "kid" though, and kids can't even consent, so will never be taken serious about their sexual choices...that changes only with age.
I'd say go with your instincts, and above all, be there as a friend she can confide in. Don't do things like avoid her just because you don't know how to handle it or what to tell her. If i know one thing, then that she needs someone to be with her on this, no matter how it turns out.
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Hee hee that's my sister on the copy'n'paste!
She's totally straight now!!! :)
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