My first few times were kinda bleh also. I let my nerves get in the way, and all of them lacked foreplay and intimacy. I think being able to share love with someone would change my views on it. I mean I can jack off 3-4 times a day for a few weeks before I burn out and need a 2 day break, but i usually do it once every other day. And when I do, I fantasize about a nice dinner, maybe a shower, and then making love. I only feel the need for a "rough" fantasy once a month or so.
My first time with anyone was pretty horrible (I didn't even get it in and she had some body odor issues and refused to take a shower with me. Or kiss.). My second time (first with a guy) was one of the best, because we cuddled/made out afterwards. My first time with anal and a girl was ok, but she wasn't the cuddle type. (She came over, took her pants off, and said "I want to try anal with you, teach me how") And the most recent (two years ago) she came over, took her pants off, ordered me to do the same, and said "I'm taking your official virginity" and then got frustrated at me after a half hour passed and I hadn't finished. (leaving out details that no one wants lol)
So I fantasize that sex is awesome, but in reality, so far for me, its only been "eh."
Is it normal: I don't get the whole deal with sex.
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My first few times were kinda bleh also. I let my nerves get in the way, and all of them lacked foreplay and intimacy. I think being able to share love with someone would change my views on it. I mean I can jack off 3-4 times a day for a few weeks before I burn out and need a 2 day break, but i usually do it once every other day. And when I do, I fantasize about a nice dinner, maybe a shower, and then making love. I only feel the need for a "rough" fantasy once a month or so.
My first time with anyone was pretty horrible (I didn't even get it in and she had some body odor issues and refused to take a shower with me. Or kiss.). My second time (first with a guy) was one of the best, because we cuddled/made out afterwards. My first time with anal and a girl was ok, but she wasn't the cuddle type. (She came over, took her pants off, and said "I want to try anal with you, teach me how") And the most recent (two years ago) she came over, took her pants off, ordered me to do the same, and said "I'm taking your official virginity" and then got frustrated at me after a half hour passed and I hadn't finished. (leaving out details that no one wants lol)
So I fantasize that sex is awesome, but in reality, so far for me, its only been "eh."