Is it normal: i don't get the whole deal with sex.

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So... I noticed (hard not to) that everything and everyone is all about sex.
Now, like everyone, I got teased as a virgin "you'll see when you do it", "it's the best feeling in the world!", "incredible!", etc...
When the time came... well, sure it was nice. But it really wasn't like everyone makes it to be. At least not for me, I didn't get a wonderful feeling of fulfillment, I didn't think it was the best feeling in the world and I really don't get the what the big deal is about it!
It's not recent. Everytime I hear or see someone who only acts in order to "get laid", I wonder if it's really as good as they describe it for them.
I know for a fact that I'm not inept, I don't have a "small" dick and everything works normally on a physical plan.
But it's just not my thing, I see myself doing it with someone I like, but not for "fun" or entertainment. I'd rather watch a movie, go out for a walk or play a video game and keep the sex limited to jacking off every once in a while.
I get the sex jokes and everything. I'm just not fond of the act.
So I thought, maybe I'd do a little survey to see if there are other people like me who aren't too into it.
I also thought it'd be a nice idea to have comments from people who really like it, just to know what the "big deal" is, and why it's so present on almost everyone's mind.
So please, answer the survey and leave a little comment describing how you feel about it, why you like it or don't and if it's the thing that lightens up your day!
I am really happy to have found this website because it allows us, internet dwellers, to find a little place to talk about normality (which is somewhat relative) and a lot of usual, everyday interesting subjects.
This is as close as it gets to a "fun" philosophical forum without the boring sound to it. Thanks for sharing!

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  • Gelmurag
    11 years ago

    My first few times were kinda bleh also. I let my nerves get in the way, and all of them lacked foreplay and intimacy. I think being able to share love with someone would change my views on it. I mean I can jack off 3-4 times a day for a few weeks before I burn out and need a 2 day break, but i usually do it once every other day. And when I do, I fantasize about a nice dinner, maybe a shower, and then making love. I only feel the need for a "rough" fantasy once a month or so.

    My first time with anyone was pretty horrible (I didn't even get it in and she had some body odor issues and refused to take a shower with me. Or kiss.). My second time (first with a guy) was one of the best, because we cuddled/made out afterwards. My first time with anal and a girl was ok, but she wasn't the cuddle type. (She came over, took her pants off, and said "I want to try anal with you, teach me how") And the most recent (two years ago) she came over, took her pants off, ordered me to do the same, and said "I'm taking your official virginity" and then got frustrated at me after a half hour passed and I hadn't finished. (leaving out details that no one wants lol)

    So I fantasize that sex is awesome, but in reality, so far for me, its only been "eh."

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  • kinda
    11 years ago

    sex is sharing love and making someone u love happy and of course i love her body and that's wt makes me wanna do sex her body turns me on (if am dealing with a guy all i care is to fuck my self and play a bit with his feeling it's fun too! but i don't call it love)i am emotionally attracted to females .. and i am virgin too but that's how i feel

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    It feels good to put your penis into a vagina. And from what I hear it feels good to put a penis in your vagina.

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    • Dazzle
      11 years ago

      I ate one of the best burgers I've ever had in a little gas shop called "sunshine station" or something like that in the US. It was dripping with fat, cooked to perfection and tasted like heaven.
      This felt good.
      Sex felt... nice, but I can get the same feeling of "nice" by jacking off.
      Soooo, I guess I should've had maybe asked: "IIN for sex to feel as pleasurable as masturbation and feel a disinterest in it as a result?".
      Don't know... hell I wouldn't be posting here if it was as people said it would be.

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      • [Old Memory]
        11 years ago

        I thought you were a virgin?

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        • Dazzle
          11 years ago

          At one point, like everyone else, I was... not anymore.

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  • dappled
    11 years ago

    There are so many reasons why it wouldn't have been great for you. It's impossible to know which of them are most relevant.

    For me, though, there are certain scenarios and actions which completely enflame me. With them, sex is always much, much better.

    Do you spend much time considering all the things that go along with sexuality and working out which things really float your boat?

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    • Dazzle
      11 years ago

      No, as I said, I don't really have picked an interest in it. I'd rather do something else.
      But I guess I'll give it a good thought and try to find out what "turns me on" when I'll get a new girlfriend.
      Thanks for the insight, always appreciated!

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