It's quite normal to avoid something that reminds you of a sour experience. Whether it's skin, a song, a food, or whatever reminds you of the experience, you will feel uncomfortable around it. It's unfortunate that what reminds you of your experiences is something obviously controversial. People keep saying "Well, white blah...", but if it were white people, skin wouldn't stick out because you're probably commonly around white people. It's usually something you see or hear that isn't obvious and common to you outside the experience that your memory will hold on to. We all have triggers for our memories, but you need to come to terms with the fact that other black people that you meet don't deserve to be treated like a suspect, and they don't owe you an apology. Don't let your bad experiences become someone elses problem. Overcome these tricks of your mind for your sake and theirs.
Is it normal I don't feel comfortable around black people anymore?
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It's quite normal to avoid something that reminds you of a sour experience. Whether it's skin, a song, a food, or whatever reminds you of the experience, you will feel uncomfortable around it. It's unfortunate that what reminds you of your experiences is something obviously controversial. People keep saying "Well, white blah...", but if it were white people, skin wouldn't stick out because you're probably commonly around white people. It's usually something you see or hear that isn't obvious and common to you outside the experience that your memory will hold on to. We all have triggers for our memories, but you need to come to terms with the fact that other black people that you meet don't deserve to be treated like a suspect, and they don't owe you an apology. Don't let your bad experiences become someone elses problem. Overcome these tricks of your mind for your sake and theirs.