"Picking a side" can be taken differently that what you might have meant, especially in the context of your post above. When you say you believe it's an in between stage, it appears to me (and apparently others) that you are saying bisexuality doesn't really exist as a true sexual orientation, but is only a phase people go through before deciding which they really are - homosexual or heterosexual. That's not true all the time, as many bisexual people who have been attracted to more than one gender all their lives can attest.
You don't say you believe it's a real thing. You do say that, based on your personal experiences, it's only a stage. This also sounds like the OP's belief. Is that really what you think?
I have seen a lot of people say they are bisexual get in a relationship than dump the partner they are with and say "No I am straight" or "No I am gay". This has also happened to me before and I could see where this would frustrate people. I seen this happen to gay couples as well as straight couples. Now this either means that
A.Too many people lie about being bisexual and so now many question if its a really a sexuality
or
B.Its an in-between phase
Walfun was saying that no matter what gender you are into you are always bisexual. I don't think one can really be classified as bisexual if you only like one side.
It also is not fair to either side to say that. Telling a lesbian she is bisexual is a lie. If she does not want to be with men and does not like men she does not have to like men. Saying she is bisexual and so must be into men is rude. People should not be forced to accept a sexuality they are not.
Your A and B are not the only two possibilities. There are also:
C: Some people truly think they are one thing then find out later they aren't. They're not lying or denying. They simply hadn't yet had the experience that shows them who they really are. Once they had that experience, they adjusted their identity based on the new information they were given.
D: For some people bisexuality is a real orientation, not a phase or stage.
E: [I don't know everything, so there are likely more that can go here.]
F: All of the above for different people at different times.
I pick F.
It's not fair for anyone, you included, to say bisexuality isn't real or is just a stage or phase. There really ARE people who are and always have been attracted to more than one gender. When you deny that and say it's only an "in-between stage" just because you haven't met any of them yet, you deny their life experience. People should not be forced to accept a sexuality they are not. That's just as rude as telling a lesbian she's really bisexual.
IIN I don't believe in Bi-sexuality?
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"Picking a side" can be taken differently that what you might have meant, especially in the context of your post above. When you say you believe it's an in between stage, it appears to me (and apparently others) that you are saying bisexuality doesn't really exist as a true sexual orientation, but is only a phase people go through before deciding which they really are - homosexual or heterosexual. That's not true all the time, as many bisexual people who have been attracted to more than one gender all their lives can attest.
You don't say you believe it's a real thing. You do say that, based on your personal experiences, it's only a stage. This also sounds like the OP's belief. Is that really what you think?
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I have seen a lot of people say they are bisexual get in a relationship than dump the partner they are with and say "No I am straight" or "No I am gay". This has also happened to me before and I could see where this would frustrate people. I seen this happen to gay couples as well as straight couples. Now this either means that
A.Too many people lie about being bisexual and so now many question if its a really a sexuality
or
B.Its an in-between phase
Walfun was saying that no matter what gender you are into you are always bisexual. I don't think one can really be classified as bisexual if you only like one side.
It also is not fair to either side to say that. Telling a lesbian she is bisexual is a lie. If she does not want to be with men and does not like men she does not have to like men. Saying she is bisexual and so must be into men is rude. People should not be forced to accept a sexuality they are not.
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Your A and B are not the only two possibilities. There are also:
C: Some people truly think they are one thing then find out later they aren't. They're not lying or denying. They simply hadn't yet had the experience that shows them who they really are. Once they had that experience, they adjusted their identity based on the new information they were given.
D: For some people bisexuality is a real orientation, not a phase or stage.
E: [I don't know everything, so there are likely more that can go here.]
F: All of the above for different people at different times.
I pick F.
It's not fair for anyone, you included, to say bisexuality isn't real or is just a stage or phase. There really ARE people who are and always have been attracted to more than one gender. When you deny that and say it's only an "in-between stage" just because you haven't met any of them yet, you deny their life experience. People should not be forced to accept a sexuality they are not. That's just as rude as telling a lesbian she's really bisexual.