I think OP is saying it should not be classified as sexuality but a fetish. Which fetishes alone are not always classified alone as ones sexuality. Like someone having a foot fetish doesn't necessarily define them as straight or gay.
I understand what you're saying and can see that their words can be taken that way. But what is more clear to me is that their words say "it's not real, but is and it's a fetish". Makes me think they're waffling since they really haven't given their "belief" a lot of thought, but just reacted emotionally to the subject instead of really critically thinking about it.
Until the OP learns how to express themselves in a more clear and thoughtful way, we'll never know for sure. And I'm not holding out hope on that one.
Not everyone can explain themselves perfectly all the time. Sometimes people have problems trying to explain what they mean. It does not mean what they think is any less relevant. They simply need better presentation skills. Now I don't claim to be able to read the OP mind or anything but from what I read I don't think they were trying to say it doesn't exist. Though classifying bisexuality itself as a fetish is debatable.
I have seen a lot of people who say they are bi and flip flop and finally end up picking a side. I also seen people who simply don't want to admit they are gay say they are bi. So given those observations I think its an in between stage.
No it means they are not bisexual. Being Lesbian means you like girls not you like both. Saying I am bisexual means you like both. Lesbian(Girl who likes girls) Bisexual(Girl who likes boys or girls), and Straight(Girl who like boys). Those are not ALL the same thing unless you don't understand what sexuality is which seems to be the case.
"Picking a side" can be taken differently that what you might have meant, especially in the context of your post above. When you say you believe it's an in between stage, it appears to me (and apparently others) that you are saying bisexuality doesn't really exist as a true sexual orientation, but is only a phase people go through before deciding which they really are - homosexual or heterosexual. That's not true all the time, as many bisexual people who have been attracted to more than one gender all their lives can attest.
You don't say you believe it's a real thing. You do say that, based on your personal experiences, it's only a stage. This also sounds like the OP's belief. Is that really what you think?
I have seen a lot of people say they are bisexual get in a relationship than dump the partner they are with and say "No I am straight" or "No I am gay". This has also happened to me before and I could see where this would frustrate people. I seen this happen to gay couples as well as straight couples. Now this either means that
A.Too many people lie about being bisexual and so now many question if its a really a sexuality
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B.Its an in-between phase
Walfun was saying that no matter what gender you are into you are always bisexual. I don't think one can really be classified as bisexual if you only like one side.
It also is not fair to either side to say that. Telling a lesbian she is bisexual is a lie. If she does not want to be with men and does not like men she does not have to like men. Saying she is bisexual and so must be into men is rude. People should not be forced to accept a sexuality they are not.
Your A and B are not the only two possibilities. There are also:
C: Some people truly think they are one thing then find out later they aren't. They're not lying or denying. They simply hadn't yet had the experience that shows them who they really are. Once they had that experience, they adjusted their identity based on the new information they were given.
D: For some people bisexuality is a real orientation, not a phase or stage.
E: [I don't know everything, so there are likely more that can go here.]
F: All of the above for different people at different times.
I pick F.
It's not fair for anyone, you included, to say bisexuality isn't real or is just a stage or phase. There really ARE people who are and always have been attracted to more than one gender. When you deny that and say it's only an "in-between stage" just because you haven't met any of them yet, you deny their life experience. People should not be forced to accept a sexuality they are not. That's just as rude as telling a lesbian she's really bisexual.
Well, if it's a fetish, then it exists. So you're just contradicting yourself here.
Besides, you should google what a "fetish" is, because you don't seem to understand that.
IIN I don't believe in Bi-sexuality?
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I just believe it's fake and more of a fetish than anything.
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Fetishes are real. You say it's a fetish but it's not real. Huh?
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I think OP is saying it should not be classified as sexuality but a fetish. Which fetishes alone are not always classified alone as ones sexuality. Like someone having a foot fetish doesn't necessarily define them as straight or gay.
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I understand what you're saying and can see that their words can be taken that way. But what is more clear to me is that their words say "it's not real, but is and it's a fetish". Makes me think they're waffling since they really haven't given their "belief" a lot of thought, but just reacted emotionally to the subject instead of really critically thinking about it.
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Not everyone can explain themselves perfectly all the time. Sometimes people have problems trying to explain what they mean. It does not mean what they think is any less relevant. They simply need better presentation skills. Now I don't claim to be able to read the OP mind or anything but from what I read I don't think they were trying to say it doesn't exist. Though classifying bisexuality itself as a fetish is debatable.
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"Now I don't claim to be able to read the OP mind or anything but from what I read I don't think they were trying to say it doesn't exist."
So what do you think this means then?
"I just believe it's fake..."
and from their opening post:
"I just think it doesn't exist."
So why do you not think they were trying to say it doesn't exist when they said those exact words?
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Since they classified it as a "fetish". Meaning they are trying to reclassify it. Better put might be "It does not exist as a sexuality".
I have seen a lot of people who say they are bi and flip flop and finally end up picking a side. I also seen people who simply don't want to admit they are gay say they are bi. So given those observations I think its an in between stage.
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No it means they are not bisexual. Being Lesbian means you like girls not you like both. Saying I am bisexual means you like both. Lesbian(Girl who likes girls) Bisexual(Girl who likes boys or girls), and Straight(Girl who like boys). Those are not ALL the same thing unless you don't understand what sexuality is which seems to be the case.
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"Picking a side" can be taken differently that what you might have meant, especially in the context of your post above. When you say you believe it's an in between stage, it appears to me (and apparently others) that you are saying bisexuality doesn't really exist as a true sexual orientation, but is only a phase people go through before deciding which they really are - homosexual or heterosexual. That's not true all the time, as many bisexual people who have been attracted to more than one gender all their lives can attest.
You don't say you believe it's a real thing. You do say that, based on your personal experiences, it's only a stage. This also sounds like the OP's belief. Is that really what you think?
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I have seen a lot of people say they are bisexual get in a relationship than dump the partner they are with and say "No I am straight" or "No I am gay". This has also happened to me before and I could see where this would frustrate people. I seen this happen to gay couples as well as straight couples. Now this either means that
A.Too many people lie about being bisexual and so now many question if its a really a sexuality
or
B.Its an in-between phase
Walfun was saying that no matter what gender you are into you are always bisexual. I don't think one can really be classified as bisexual if you only like one side.
It also is not fair to either side to say that. Telling a lesbian she is bisexual is a lie. If she does not want to be with men and does not like men she does not have to like men. Saying she is bisexual and so must be into men is rude. People should not be forced to accept a sexuality they are not.
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Your A and B are not the only two possibilities. There are also:
C: Some people truly think they are one thing then find out later they aren't. They're not lying or denying. They simply hadn't yet had the experience that shows them who they really are. Once they had that experience, they adjusted their identity based on the new information they were given.
D: For some people bisexuality is a real orientation, not a phase or stage.
E: [I don't know everything, so there are likely more that can go here.]
F: All of the above for different people at different times.
I pick F.
It's not fair for anyone, you included, to say bisexuality isn't real or is just a stage or phase. There really ARE people who are and always have been attracted to more than one gender. When you deny that and say it's only an "in-between stage" just because you haven't met any of them yet, you deny their life experience. People should not be forced to accept a sexuality they are not. That's just as rude as telling a lesbian she's really bisexual.
Well, if it's a fetish, then it exists. So you're just contradicting yourself here.
Besides, you should google what a "fetish" is, because you don't seem to understand that.