Is it normal i do not know what to do in these situations?
Whenever someone insults me I am not very clever with come back insults. This makes people think I do not stick up for myself even thought I try to. I also do not understand the difference between someone joking or insulting. My other answer is fighting, which I would do back in school, but I am very uncoordinated and have connective tissue problems in my shoulders which cause my arms to become dislocated in sudden movements, so you can imagine I am not a good fighter. That leaves me with the option of killing them. However when I suggest this people say I am being crazy even though its the only logical solution. My ex would always get upset at me for not "defending her" and when I would try verbally it would usually not end well for my side since I am not good at arguing points. However nobody gives me a better solution.