Is it normal i didn’t respond ?

I’m struggling to get a boyfriend. It’s bugging me, because I’m getting older nearly 24.... and never done anything with a boy apart from kissing. And my first kiss was this year! So I’ve dated a few this year and it’s all so new to me. I’m shy, and introverted but I am putting myself out there as best I can.

I do have anxiety to which I think sometimes holds me back a little. So I had a second great date with this boy... he drove me home and we sat in his car and chatted for an hour! Before I got out haha. He placed his hand on my leg, and me being me did nothing I just kept talking, it was like I couldn’t move my hand onto his... it was nice though. I felt bad afterwards but we did have a nice kiss before I left, and he said he’d see me again.

That week was fine we were texting as normal, both busy the day we usually meet up so we didn’t, I asked if he’d like to see me the following week and he said ‘there’s no point in dating if we aren’t going to see each other’

There was a lot more said than that. But all I can think is it was my fault because he placed his hand on my leg and I didn’t respond. But to me 2 dates is a little early to be leaving someone because they didn’t touch you back. Then again this is all new to me and I don’t understand you men for one second.

FYI. He wasn’t looking for a fling. And he did speak to me normal the following week. But was it my fault he left?

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  • LornaMae

    GOOD GOD, GIRL! This is like a sitcom without a plot trying to gain public recognition with the same pilot episode being aired twice a week for 6 months.

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  • This shits so fucking annoying.

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    • Boojum

      You mean the continual resurfacing of the same old story? Maybe she'll eventually get the answer she wants to hear and stop.

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      • 😂 I don’t see it happening.

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        • LornaMae

          She doesn't either.... hehehehe

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          • 😂😂

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    • Huh?

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      • LornaMae

        I've been copying & pasting your links to eventually show you what "Huh?" I haven't counted how many and those are just the ones I caught by chance. So here's what's "Huh?":

        https://www.isitnormal.com/post/is-it-normal-i-didn--t-respond--277407

        https://www.isitnormal.com/post/is-it-my-fault--277302

        https://www.isitnormal.com/post/i-can--t-stop-thinking-about-him-277376#comment-2765079

        https://www.isitnormal.com/post/men-why-are-you-so-confusing--276216

        https://www.isitnormal.com/post/would-you-leave-a-girl-if-she-didn--t--276121

        https://www.isitnormal.com/post/is-it-normal-i-like-her-but-can--t-have-her--276008

        https://www.isitnormal.com/post/i--m-confused-about-dating--275980

        https://www.isitnormal.com/post/why-does-it-always-happen-to-me--275862

        https://www.isitnormal.com/post/does-this-mean-he-doesn--t-like-me--274902

        https://www.isitnormal.com/post/why-doesn--t-he-want-me--274735

        https://www.isitnormal.com/post/can-you-ever-be-too-busy--275511

        https://www.isitnormal.com/post/need-you-to-de-code-boy-talk-274813

        https://www.isitnormal.com/post/i-can--t-keep-a-boyfriend-274478

        https://www.isitnormal.com/post/how-often-should-i-message--274258

        https://www.isitnormal.com/post/i-don--t-know-how-to-be-with-men-273698

        https://www.isitnormal.com/post/unblocking--273545

        https://www.isitnormal.com/post/what-step-to-take-next--273412

        https://www.isitnormal.com/post/how-to-get-over-someone--271615

        https://www.isitnormal.com/post/have-you-ever-gone-back--271536

        https://www.isitnormal.com/post/have-you-ever-left-someone-for-someone-better--271062

        https://www.isitnormal.com/post/is-it-normal-i-miss-a-girl-i-barely-knew--270420

        https://www.isitnormal.com/post/is-it-normal-to-be-really-desperate-for-romantic-attention--270386

        https://www.isitnormal.com/post/everyone-remember-the-guy-who-didn--t-want-a-relationship--270343

        https://www.isitnormal.com/post/have-you-ever-pushed-someone-away--270291

        https://www.isitnormal.com/post/what-guy-is-going-to-want-this-girl--270159

        https://www.isitnormal.com/post/have-you-ever-regretted-letting-someone-go--269979

        https://www.isitnormal.com/post/is-it-normal-to-miss-someone-you-dated-for-a-short-while--269897

        https://www.isitnormal.com/post/i-don--t-know-how-to-deal-with-heartbreak--269740

        https://www.isitnormal.com/post/what--s-the-best-way-to-get-someone-back-or-to-miss-you--269708

        https://www.isitnormal.com/post/do-guys-like-girls-to-make-the-move--269433

        https://www.isitnormal.com/post/iin-to-wish-to-be-loved-so-much--268887

        https://www.isitnormal.com/post/iin-i-don--t-want-anybody-else--267843

        https://www.isitnormal.com/post/iin-that-i-can--t-recognise-other-people--s-emotions--267837

        https://www.isitnormal.com/post/my-first-date--help-267163

        Either a very consistent troll or seriously in need of psychiatric help... :/

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        • mauzi

          Oh yeah, I hate that bitch. there was a post where he/she replied to me "Suck it cunt", then on another post I called them out as being the same person which they denied up and down, called me a BS artist etc, then finally broke down and replied "Suck it cunt" again on the 2nd post and blocked me which revealed they were indeed the OP of both posts. lol this idiot always replies "huh? what? youre crazy, you got the wrong person"..etc. over and over and has been posting these same boring stories for at least a year now. Very annoying little twat it is. Nice collection you got going! ;)

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          • LornaMae

            It started out of boredom here and it's just a plain txt file that grew way longer than I could ever have predicted... Hahaha! I've gotten the "What are you on about?" too! :D

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        • SwickDinging

          Haha yes! Lornamae straight in there with a fact check

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          • LornaMae

            Meh, just because her posts stick out like a sore thumb and a Hansberger post.

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            • Boojum

              Is he still posting? I haven't noticed any in a while. Maybe I'm on his evil person list.

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            • SwickDinging

              Hansberg's posts are less annoying than this. I have grown fond of his eccentricity

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        • Boojum

          Flippin' 'eck, Lorna!

          I can recall seeing the story a couple of times, but I had no idea it was that bad.

          The guy probably has no idea just how fortunate he is that his dingbat detector was functioning correctly on that fateful night.

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          • mauzi

            even luckier that he is non existent!

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            • Boojum

              🤣

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          • LornaMae

            Hehe, yeah, I only started noticing after the 4th or 5th post because I'd tried to give her useful and thoughtful answers but she was never satisfied with any of them and kept on asking... Pissed me off and felt like I was wasting my time on someone who didn't really want a different answer than "He secretly loves you and he's coming back to you!"

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        • bigbudchonga

          I think this is legit. I troll myself, and this is just such a mundane topic to troll on. I don't see why anyone would put in the effort.

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          • LornaMae

            Yeah, I think so too. I just wish she'd finally get it. She seems like a nice girl who is in serious need of help and everyone here has been so helpful to her in the last 6 months... but she seems to have a very thick skull. :/

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  • bigbudchonga

    Keep going on dates. You're a girl, so there's always someone out there who will go for you. If you get nervous and that when someone puts their hand on your leg then maybe smile/ do that cute girl giggle thing. I think that would sent the right message, and it's not like you have to do much to affirm your intentions.

    I do think you should push yourself because by 24 you should probably have done more stuff by now, but I really do mean that I wouldn't worry too much. Guys are horny as fuck. There will always be someone who will go for you.

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  • Tealights

    Obsessing is never good.

    Dating is trial and error. You're female, so you sort of have the upper-hand when it comes to choices in partner, but there are some major drawbacks like: pregnancy, and being more susceptible to getting raped/murdered. Then there's the general risk of an abusive relationship or getting an STD/I that we all share (if not careful).

    1. You're not old. You're in your 20's. Unless you plan on dying at 50, then you can freak the fuck out about being 24. But you expect to live until 70 - 80 like the rest of us, so chill; you got time.

    2. Be your own person. Stop trying to keep up with everyone else. So what if your friends are having babies right now, or getting married. They have their own set of problems, because babies and marriage aren't easy if it's with the wrong person. So while you're sitting there all sad you got no one, they could be planning to get a divorce soon.

    3. There are billions of people in the world, and possibly over a 1,000 compatible partners in your area alone; and you only explored 3 potential men so far. You've been so hung up on the He-touched-my-leg guy for months, because you had a few good conversations with him and felt attached. You didn't miss out. Men, if skilled in asshole tactics well enough, can literally fake relationships for years; making a naive girl smile from a few conversations is cake. Just be thankful this guy was upfront about wanting pussy, and left you alone when he didn't get it, because he could have done worse. ***TIP: Men are never too busy unless they are already providing for a family of their own. Otherwise, they will always make time for something/someone they want, if they feel it's worth it.****

    There's so much more, but you have to learn through experience. Just stop being desperate. Be confident, and continue to put yourself out there, but choose your men carefully. Don't let anyone pressure you into doing anything you don't want to.

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    • LornaMae

      You always give such good advice and I hope this time she'll finally accept it.

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      • LornaMae

        Oh, and now it's still "only" 7 billion people... hehehe

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        • Tealights

          Whaaaaaa.... I heard it was 11 bill. from CNN or something. Welp.

          Also, thank you. 😊

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          • LornaMae

            Hahaha, you probably heard the prediction for the year 2100! LOL

            You're welcome, it's true! :)

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  • RoseIsabella

    It's time to get over it.

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  • Columbusbiguy

    Just give it up. Become a nun and you wont have to worry about it.

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