Typically when a woman doesn't want someone going down on her,could be because at some point a previous lover complained about her scent.
"annoyance that an intelligent woman whom I loved and who loved me didn't trust me enough to let me put my mouth on her vagina or my fingers in her."
It had nothing to do with you, just something maybe happened at some point that she would not talk to anyone about. Women are self-conscious of their scent anyways, even if someone tells them it is sexy.
Intellectually, I did understand that, but I also felt what I felt.
Over the years, there were occasional hints that something unpleasant had happened with a man when she was a child, and I knew that a couple of her adult relationships with guys were difficult (at the very least), but she kept a wall up around those things. She clearly didn't want to talk about them, and I didn't push it.
Like I said, I think it's sad she was never able to be more accepting of her body and her sexuality. She accomplished quite a bit in her life, but she wasn't able to fully and freely experience that aspect of being human.
IIN I'd Be Willing To Give Oral But Not Receive It?
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Typically when a woman doesn't want someone going down on her,could be because at some point a previous lover complained about her scent.
"annoyance that an intelligent woman whom I loved and who loved me didn't trust me enough to let me put my mouth on her vagina or my fingers in her."
It had nothing to do with you, just something maybe happened at some point that she would not talk to anyone about. Women are self-conscious of their scent anyways, even if someone tells them it is sexy.
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Intellectually, I did understand that, but I also felt what I felt.
Over the years, there were occasional hints that something unpleasant had happened with a man when she was a child, and I knew that a couple of her adult relationships with guys were difficult (at the very least), but she kept a wall up around those things. She clearly didn't want to talk about them, and I didn't push it.
Like I said, I think it's sad she was never able to be more accepting of her body and her sexuality. She accomplished quite a bit in her life, but she wasn't able to fully and freely experience that aspect of being human.
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For you and your second wife, congrats on sticking to the vow of "til death do you part". That doesn't happen as often as it should these days