Is it normal i cant forgive her?

Who says you have to forgive her? By forgiving someone who hasn't changed, all your saying is "Yeah keep doing this in the future. There's no consequences"

I'm not saying hold a grudge toward her but don't allow yourself to be hurt again.

My advice: Get with your husband, agree to boot the sister out of your collective life, and then get on with life.

Fucj that bitch

Why does y0our husband have to be friendly with her if she's not willing to pay back. Why did she visit you when you're not talking to her ?

You sure your'e husband is clean and does not have a thing going for your sister ???

Yes, I think it is normal but you should try to. That kind of thing can eat away at a person.

I'd write her off and never allow anyone to mention her name again in my presence. That'd help you to forget about her.

Anyway, it's only money - I hope your baby is healthy!

i dont know how to forgive her, i wish i did. I wish i could act like it never happend but every time i hear about her it comes back and pisses me off even more.

I understand your anger and fustration but I think your taking it a little far. She kinda sounds like a deadbeat, and you're not gettin your money back-you gotta make peace w that. It was a mistake--lesson learned. This is your man's sister, and you don't gotta like her but you gotta put up w her to some extent.

I'd feel the same way. but u should consider it a lesson learned and move on. my policy with lending money to my family or friends is that I don't think of it as lending. I'm basically giving it to them and if I get it back then great. That being said I don't really give money to friends and family that often and I never ever ask to borrow large sums of money. It too often causes relationships to go sour.

I think its understandable to be angry in this situation. I would be. Having said that, like you had mentioned, the past cannot be changed, so let go of the hope that it could be any different.
Sometimes I wonder if certain types of people like to see if they can control other people and/or other relationships via intrusion. Your husband probably knew his sister enough to know that she was never going to pay you guys back. His sister probably knew that by not paying you back and by asking for money was going to cause some attention to her (or she felt powerful for making you feel less important to your husband than her - or whatever). Personally I think that it is pretty gutsy to not pay you guys back and then still come around like nothing happened. In my humble opinion your husband is enabling her to control your lives and enabling her to live without circumstances to her bad decisions.
Of course when a family member is in diar straights, and they need help desperately, you want to be there for them, however, there is a fine line between being there for them and them taking advantage of your good nature.
If it were me, I would ask my husband why he feels that he is his sisters keeper? perhaps there is a childhood issue that you arent aware of. Also, I would tell him how I felt about the situation, "I feel that she is taking advantage of us and it is causing arguments within our relationship and I dont want that, how can we fix this?" perhaps explain first that you dont want to see any member of his family in a bad way, but you feel like she is taking advantage at this stage. I would also clear up what is going to happen once her baby is born - what is his and your role in this...... if any - set the boundaries before she starts asking for money so that you and your husband are on the same page. It can get pretty emotional when people start to talk about the welfare of their baby and money.
Of course you dont want her to have control over your emotions, you dont want to waste your energy on her and her actions (I think its for attention - you v/s her kinda thing- but I dont know her).
Good luck, this is super tricky :)

i cant understand why you are angry, i would be too. i dont agree that after everything youve done for her shes not happy to help you out. but i think for the sake of yourself and your husband you just have to move past it. i dont think you should ever have to ever lend her any money or help her out like that again but i do think this is hurting you more than her. by the sound of it, youre the one who misses out on things because of her and who is being hurt/angered by the situation and its not making her feel bad at all. you deserve to be in your own living room whenever you want to be and not have to hide out. i think you should forgive her for yourself, so its not something that weighs you down or troubles you. but in term of her; i dont think you have to ever be overly nice or offer to help ever again, just show your self and your husband that you can be the bigger person.