Is it normal i cannot tell when a girl is trying to flirt with me?

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Often I am not sure if a girl likes me or is flirting with me or not. This has caused me problems with thinking they are when they're not as well as missing out when they actually are.
I'm also not sure how to flirt with girls appropriately. Just when I think I know what I am doing, it backfires and I have been told that people think I am creepy. I don't act like a pervert though.
I'm sure there are girls I know who like me because I seem to be popular, but I have no idea how to tell if they do or not.
I realize I am not very good at reading body language or facial expressions due to neurological complications and have also been told my body language is mostly absent and I don't really understand how it works as my understanding of communication is 100% verbal but I would like to know how to get better at this.

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  • shuggy-chan
    9 years ago | pl

    just do what i do and pinch your nipples and ask "you like?"

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    • [Old Memory]
      9 years ago

      Me like...

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      • shuggy-chan
        9 years ago

        http://s3-ec.buzzfed.com/static/2014-05/enhanced/webdr07/19/1/enhanced-buzz-11704-1400477192-8.jpg

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        • [Old Memory]
          9 years ago

          LOL I dont wanna know what you get off to...

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          • shuggy-chan
            9 years ago

            Bitch im un-fucking-crust-able

            now let me see your hotpockets xD

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  • handsignals
    9 years ago

    She gave my comment a thumbs up

    So I guess you could say things are getting pretty serious.

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  • normalantonym
    9 years ago

    No shit. that's the definition of normal. Not even women understand themselves. but here is a tip, continue to try and continue to improve your skill. Talk with women more, especially make friends with them. they'll let you in on some of their secrets and eventually you might learn to use what you learned on OTHER girls. Don't be afraid of losing friendship or crap like that. Just don't be rude or inappropriate. you can always flirt or ask ladies out politely and nicely. Don't be an ass. if they rejected you, rudely or not. Know that you are like any other non-celebrity man in this universe.

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  • Avant-Garde
    9 years ago

    Do you have Aspergers, by any chance?

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    • [Old Memory]
      9 years ago

      I do and in some ways I'm really high functioning and extroverted but in other ways such as reading non-verbal languages I am really impaired. I think I'm high functioning to where my aspergers is not noticeable (as far as I can tell) but on my evaluations I have tested worse that even someone with low functioning autism on reading non-verbal language which I don't seem to understand whatsoever. I also have adhd and schizoaffective disorder which may add to this. I'm not sure.

      It seems this problem was rated normal though so maybe this has nothing to do with it.

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      • Avant-Garde
        9 years ago

        I just remembered. There was a book that I used to rent at a library that was about body language. It talked about how people flirt and how you could find out through their body language. It was by a woman and I think the book may have been red with, perhaps, white lettering. I can't remember what the title was. Sorry.

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      • Avant-Garde
        9 years ago

        I also have have the ADD/ADHD. Did you know that there are actually seven types of ADD, instead of two?

        As I have stated elsewhere, I and others have long had the suspicion of me having Aspergers. What you've described in your post reminds of myself.

        I tend to have the difficulty with reading expressions and understanding the do's and don'ts of certain behavior. People can flirt with me but, it will often go flying over my head. Some people think that I am sending love signals to them when I am not.

        I don't know about you, but I hope that my symptoms aren't that obvious. I am so self-conscious that now they might be.

        Life is so weird. Perhaps, watching movies where there's proper romance in them could help? I mean films that show courtship. Display flirting. That might make it easier to spot in real time.

        Apparently, there exists quite a few people who are introverted, shy, socially awkward, so maybe they are inputting this as a form of that?

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  • Tobiasbeecher
    9 years ago

    Is your sister flirting with you again? Score!,

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  • sugarboobs
    9 years ago

    ;-)

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  • sugarboobs
    9 years ago

    oh u poor thing why don't u cum over to my house so we can talk about it.

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  • worriedgirlhere
    9 years ago

    I find flirting to be a bit awkward when you're over thinking it. Given a situation where you're talking to a girl, just act like yourself. Wow so cliche I know but you know what? It's the best thing to do when you think about it.

    I don't think of myself "flirting" as I just talk normally as I usually would. You don't have to act differently by trying to go out of your way to impress someone by changing how you usually act. Just act like you usually do.

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    • [Old Memory]
      9 years ago

      That is what I always do is just be myself. I'm not into acting anyways because it's unnatural and fake.
      That's not quite the problem though and I don't seem to have trouble making friends.
      The problem I have is I am unable to distinguish between which girls are into me and which ones aren't.
      This causes me to make advances toward the wrong girls and come off as "creepy" while at the same time I miss opportunities with girls that like me because I didn't notice. Its been pointed out to me that I over look girls that other people later tell me "she was obviously into you".

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      • worriedgirlhere
        9 years ago

        I know that can be seen as misleading, but to me it's kind of silly. If a girl is into you, she should tell you in a more clear manner. You can't read their minds, right? So don't act like you can. Like I said, just act normally and when the time is right maybe the right girl will tell you how she feels. Or if you're really are eagerly know...why not ask the girl yourself? We're all human and rejection is a part of life so, take a chance because...you only live once (I'm so sorry).

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        • [Old Memory]
          9 years ago

          I agree. It seems like a lot of people like to send mixed signals for some reason.

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    Stick to trying to work on your observation skills, once you get good at that, which you should over time. Then you should be better able to flow in and out conversation, including flirting. Unless that neurological disease is impairing you, you weren't specific about it.

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  • green_boogers
    9 years ago

    I have the same problem. I'm told I need to make better eye contact, but I still feel clueless.

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