Is it normal i can't have male friends?

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Ok, I'm 21 years old, and I'm pretty but Im not extraordinary or anything..but I just can't keep male friends, they ALWAYS end up hitting on me or asking me out, it's a real nightmare because I don't really get on with girls that well. At the moment, theres a guy who is in all my classes at Uni and he's been really friendly with me. Now it's become apparent he is hitting on me but not quite apparent enough that I can just say I'm not interested in him in that way and I cant ignore him because I have to work with him in class. How do I make it obvious I'm not interested, and how do I stop this happening with other guys? I've lost so many guys I thought were mates this year who were just sticking around cuz they wanted a bit :(

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  • howaminotmyself
    12 years ago | pl

    Tell him your he reminds you of your brother.

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  • randomjelly
    12 years ago | pl

    ^^ no...then it only gets worse! Lol!

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  • rayst
    12 years ago | pl

    Tell them you're a lesbian, it works!!

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago | pl

    This is a site to ask if something is normal or not, not an advice site.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      12 years ago | pl

      K thanks for the judging, thats helpful, IIN that my male friends inevitably hit on me? To put it in IIN terms...

      also you're a wanker and an idiot for not understanding theres a blatant IIN story there in the first place, if you're not too stupid to see it and also, you're being a judgemental dick.

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      • [Old Memory]
        12 years ago | pl

        Ah so basicly your question is that because your attractive that the men in your life like you? well see if its in that case then its even more sad that you dont know that attractive girl + guy friend = guy has crush on attractive girl. Basicly by saying that you have just made yourself look like the typical eye candy with no brains because you couldnt figure out for yourself that guys do intend to have crushes on their attractive female friends. Oh and no this wasnt an "IIN" question otherwise you wouldnt of finnished with "How do I make it obvious im not interested" showing that this wasnt a question of "IIN" this was a story looking for advice just adding "IIN" at the end doesnt make it an IIN question. So im the "wanker" and the "idiot" because I understood a very normal thing which you could not and had to make a story about? good one. Im being judgemental? em maybe I am maybe im not but I like to see the type of stories that were the reason this site was created not what you teenage girls and guys do. Here is a list of the only stories getting posted now due to half of the idiotic users thinking this is a advice site (These are pretty much the only stories getting submitted now)

        -IIN That I like this guy
        -IIN That I like this girl
        -IIN Im in love with my friend
        -IIN My friend has a crush on me but im not interested.
        -IIN That I like to be alone
        -IIN My dreams come true
        -IIN I hear voices
        -IIN I tried drugs

        Now the list might look like it has alot there but in reality it doesnt I have been on this site for about a year or more so and those are the only types of stories that get submitted mainly by these loved up teens who want to share their relationship stories (Which isnt what this site is about) or people alwways saying they hear voices (Which most of them are lying because if as many of them actualy heard voices in their heads then about 60% of humanity would be hearing voices due to the amount of people claiming they hear voices in their heads)
        You get it yet?
        This site has been over run by kids trying to be seen as special or different and by teens trying to share their relationship stories which is happening so much that the actual questions that the site was made for arent getting seen. So no I have a point you are the one submitting a story onto a website that has no relevant meaning or is easy to know the answer "IIN"

        Im staring to not see the site name as IsItNormal im more seeing it as ItIsNormal because nearly every story people like you submit are 99.9% normal

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          12 years ago | pl

          Missing the point, again. I'm asking if it is normal for this to happen to this extent, just because I *also* asked for advice doesn't negate the actual point of the story. I'm not an airhead, I know plenty of attractive girls who do not have this problem and that is why I added a question on the end about how to make it clear I just want friendship, as I'm wondering if I lead them on somehow. I'm not a teenager, I'm 21, forgive me for hoping that men were sophisticated enough to have female friends without automatically wanting to stink their dicks in them, and I still believe they are. Not you though, clearly.

          Also, you need to lose the bug in your bonnet about this site and skim through the stories that don't interest you, looking at your recent comments half of them relate to/mention what you've just said to me, ranting about it isn't going to change anything.

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          • [Old Memory]
            12 years ago | pl

            Eh all due respect the question you asked wasnt "IIN" it was an advice question read over your own post and realise what you wrote. Oh and im like these guys am I? a good one I just want to "stick my dick" into my female friends? well first off you couldnt be any less accurate. You clearly dont realise what you yourself submitted so just remember more people are agreeing with me here. I pity that you dont even realise what you wrote down.

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      • bleach_baby
        12 years ago | pl

        agreed

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  • Welshy
    11 years ago | pl

    I have the same problem but with girls, Ive got 2 the stage that I don't bother with girls unless I fancy them & wanna date them. But I used 2 say I see them as sister which works really well. In a boys point of view every guy only spends his free time with a girl if he wants abit. U can be friends in uni or work because that's different than ur free time like in ur bedroom or going 4 a drink together coz that's more like dating & will make them think u like them more....

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  • manipulatedzombie
    12 years ago | pl

    Just tell them you are not interested, and if you are talk about what you both want. Once that's put out in the open if he's good to have around he will respect that.
    If not he's not a very good friend to have anyways.

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  • xxxMissFitxxx
    12 years ago | pl

    Same here.

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