Is it normal i can't get turned on?

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I'm 20 and i've never masturbated before a couple weeks ago. I tried it and i imagine my boyfriend tieing me up and using me for his pleasure (he still needs to be gentle about it though) i also massage my nipples and boobs at the same time. I can make myself extremly wet by doing this but once i try to finger myself i can't get off? it's like once i let go of my boobs i'm done? Whenever my bf and i have sex i'm generally not turned on. i can be extremly wet with him but once he goes inside me i don't feel anything. He's not too small for me since we've tried different positions and he's hurt me. I'm not sure that it's nerves as i try to relax when we have sex. I was also a virgin when i started dating my bf. The one time i got turned on was because a girl had been hitting on him recently over text and i got extremely jealous over this and that some how fueled my sex drive. Any suggestions would be appreciated. Thank you for reading this long post ^_^'

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  • quentari
    11 years ago

    You may not be able to get off via vaginal stimulation, how does it feel when you touch your clitoris instead?

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    • sarah_XX_
      11 years ago

      i've never gotten any real stimulation from it, but i don't think i've been extremely turned on enough for it to take effect? I have been turned on in the past but i never figured to touch myself down there -__- . When my bf does it it just feels like he's rubbing it and that's really it. All i accomplish from touching that is either getting turned off instantly or i realize that i'm not actually turned on? Not sure if this'll help but if i'm not wet and he touches me there it feels extremely uncomfortable.

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      • quentari
        11 years ago

        that's normal. When you next try masturbating and you're really wet from playing with your breasts try rubbing your clit gently, you may have more luck with that. Try looking up anorgasmia or situational anorgasmia, you may have something similar

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        • sarah_XX_
          11 years ago

          Thanks so much. I just went on a site and I realized i'm not really educated in this.. so i'm going to research a lot. :)

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