Is it normal i can't get a boyfriend even though i'm attractive?

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Basically i'm 25 years old and i can't get a boyfriend (technically in the past ive had 7 boyfriends not all that long or serious) was engaged if you can even call it that he didn't care about me and left me a month later for someone else and never spoke to me again, i just feel like everyone is ashamed and embarrassed of me or something im struggling alot in life but this is something which has been lately getting me down because i don't really get it, its hard to show this via text and with the type of post i'm writing, but most people who meet me say they think i'm a pretty attractive girl get called cute alot, but no one seems to want me, i can be quite fussy because i want someone i'm attracted to and feel chemistry with and that rarely happens lately, 2 guys i was seeing despite me feeling strongly about them both said they didn't want relationships yet after me got with girls they were in relationships with, i feel something is wrong with me, and i don't know what it is, i never have truly had a guy care about me or want a relationship with me, and its very lonely.. ive had guys say they're mad about me but always end up ghosting or getting bored and nothing ever comes from it, just don't really get it anymore or why no one seems to want me, i have alot of interests and things to talk about, i'm not clingy.. or pushing them away just being chilled happy (even tho deep down i'm not i don't show i'm sad to people) but still no one even wants to give me a chance? yet i see girls way less attractive with guys who wouldnt look twice at me, i just don't know what i'm doing wrong, i have a big personality and lots to say and talk about but something doesn't seem to be right.

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  • Ellenna
    4 years ago | pl

    Maybe you talk like you write in one long boring stream and they just switch off?

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    • shuggy-chan
      4 years ago

      Lol that’s what I was gonna say

      Maybe it’s because you talk like you have a write and 500 word essay on a book you didn’t read so your just run it all together and use like filler word like like and its both mind numbing and boring or maybe it speaks to a personality flaw or potential lack in one at all that leads to disinterested males

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  • RoseIsabella
    4 years ago

    It's really hard to say from just reading a post. I noticed that you aren't very big on paragraphs. Do you talk a lot, and make it hard for others to get a word in edgewise? Are you bossy, or otherwise demanding? Do you brag a lot, or make a real big deal about looks?

    No offense, but I rather feel like this could be related to your personality on some level.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      4 years ago

      No, never brag if anything more shy and lack confidence.

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      • RoseIsabella
        4 years ago

        Hmm... well what things would you like to change about yourself, and or improve upon?

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  • dimwitted
    4 years ago

    Don't post pics. It's all about self esteem and not giving a shit. Once you focus on you, he'll come along.

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  • SKDM007
    4 years ago

    humble bragging....

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  • [Old Memory]
    4 years ago

    Roughly 275 words and one period.

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  • Laetitian
    4 years ago

    If your emotional writing style is any indication about how passionate you are about relationships and how much you desire to be close to your partner, then the people you have dated in the past might have been overwhelmed by those strong feelings without them being clearly defined. You can consider talking about it in order to make them better prepared what type of closeness you desire (such as regular exchange just to know the other one is paying attention, or more dedicated activities like doing study/work tasks together or hanging out more deliberately, or just regularly establishing why you care about each other and whether those factors are still functional - and then also clarify how much of that you prefer/need to happen in person, as opposed to phone calls or texts).

    It might at first sound off-putting to lay out these things so bluntly, but doing so acknowledges that what might seem natural and obvious for relationship activities to you might simply not be the most logical choice for them in the amount you would prefer. If you talk about desires like these, you make making you happy accessible - and making your partner happy is the core desire love comes with, so you are making it a lot easier for your partner to commit to their feelings for you, and let them blossom without the feeling of inadequacy to live up to them.

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  • raisinbran
    4 years ago

    "I have a big personality" there's your culprit.

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  • farkelu
    4 years ago

    Maybe if you used a period - or even HAD a period once in a while - you could find someone with a brain. But you write like a 6 year old.

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  • jethro
    4 years ago

    "Even though I'm attractive". Just what does that mean? describe yourself.

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  • BlackCandle
    4 years ago

    Yes. Even though you're attractive. Yes, it's normal.

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  • Doesnormalmatter
    4 years ago

    How does this happen when guys are so horny? It never ceases to amaze me.

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