Question is, is he making you cum? I always like to think of the sex being about me and my orgasms, and I expect him to consider that as the main priority as well. If he brings me to orgasm at least once (preferably 3 or 4 times) when we have sex, then all is well in the world. If by chance he gets to cum as well, then he needs to think of that as a bonus. I like it that way as it suits me best.
If you and your boyfriend adopt that attitude you could both benifit. You because you hopefully get to have several great orgasms, and him because his orgasm is only a bonus, therefore there is no psycological pressure on him to cum. The other added bonus here is once he has got everything working right, you continue with the same expectations of putting you and your orgasms first. That way when you have sex you keep control, you have as many orgasms as you want, and he only has one if YOU want, and of course from time to time you may decide you don't want him to.
He actually makes me orgasm at least 10 times a night he makes me cum a LOT! And he’s always happy that he at least pleasured me and that’s what matters to him but as the girl I just want him to at least get pleasured too ya know?
That's great so let him know how much you love what he does to you. But tell him it doesn't matter if he doesn't cum, even though it does matter, make him believe it doesn't. If he knows you really want him to cum that is putting pressure on him to do so. Take the pressure away and he just might relax enough for it to happen. You could even try some reverse psychology, give him a target you want him to make you cum 20 times while he's inside you, before you will let him cum.
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Question is, is he making you cum? I always like to think of the sex being about me and my orgasms, and I expect him to consider that as the main priority as well. If he brings me to orgasm at least once (preferably 3 or 4 times) when we have sex, then all is well in the world. If by chance he gets to cum as well, then he needs to think of that as a bonus. I like it that way as it suits me best.
If you and your boyfriend adopt that attitude you could both benifit. You because you hopefully get to have several great orgasms, and him because his orgasm is only a bonus, therefore there is no psycological pressure on him to cum. The other added bonus here is once he has got everything working right, you continue with the same expectations of putting you and your orgasms first. That way when you have sex you keep control, you have as many orgasms as you want, and he only has one if YOU want, and of course from time to time you may decide you don't want him to.
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He actually makes me orgasm at least 10 times a night he makes me cum a LOT! And he’s always happy that he at least pleasured me and that’s what matters to him but as the girl I just want him to at least get pleasured too ya know?
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That's great so let him know how much you love what he does to you. But tell him it doesn't matter if he doesn't cum, even though it does matter, make him believe it doesn't. If he knows you really want him to cum that is putting pressure on him to do so. Take the pressure away and he just might relax enough for it to happen. You could even try some reverse psychology, give him a target you want him to make you cum 20 times while he's inside you, before you will let him cum.