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it seems like i never really achieved at getting a job, or getting good grades in school. My parents say its my fault that im this way. But when i look back at it there actually the reason Im this way. when i was younger they always did the work for me so i never really got the hang of doing homework. I think one of the biggest factors is me going to a daycare center till i was in the 7th grade and such.
I sometimes feel the same, that my parents have never really motivated me to do anything for myself, if anything I felt encouraged to spounge off other people. So in my situation I often blame my parents for my lack of motivation, but I have to blame myself as well.
In the end, it doesn't really matter whose fault it is if your life is rubbish, it is what it is, and only YOU can do something about it.
honestly to say the truth, it can be partly there fault for the experiences they gave you and how they raised you as a kid,but in what i said it can be your fault as well for not putting your foot down and saying i am going to do something and not let my parents or who ever to raise you that way. so its a half and half deal.
Each of us lives just one single life that we see every little bit of every day - and that our OWN life.
No matter how we think we know, we never see all the rest that goes on. And that's the difference. Parents are human just as you. they have hobbies, love, fear, jobs, a house to maintain, pets to look after cos the kids didn't know they'd be cleaning up poop after the cute fluffy new pet dog etc. etc.
Forget the stuff about "I failed in school", cos that's just lame.
Go out, get a life, get an education, inspire yourself to get off your ass and be something special.
Not everybody will be a genius or famous, but you dont need to be. Just life your life to the full, and never look to blame others for things you could never ever experience yet.
One day, you too may see a message on a forum from your own child, saying you failed HIM/HER.
Look back then, and see how easy it all wasn't.
Good luck.
I agree with joybird; you have to change your life and prove to yourself that you can do well on your own. If you keep blaming your parents you'll just grow more bitter and keep yourself stuck. You won't move and grow and achieve your own success and you deserve that, so shake those bad memories and feelings off and tell yourself you'll move ahead despite your parents because you're meant to :)
The day I had my son, a nurse came into my room and said,
"You do know that from now on, everything that goes wrong in this child's life is your fault!"
"WTF??!!!"
Yes, she was right!
Which school I sent him to, the fact I gave up work to look after him (I was boring), I made him go to swimming lessons (they were boring), on and on and on it goes.
I did my best and agonised over every tiny decision, as I'm sure your parents did!
Change your life now and show them how you would've done it if you could've made your own decisions.
Good luck!!
It seems like your parents share SOME of the blame, but MOST of it falls on your shoulders. I don't recall reading in your post that you tried to stop them from helping you, or persuaded them to take you out of daycare. It honestly sounds like your parents wanted you to be a smart child, but they went about it a wrong way. There's still hope though, you can't changed the past but you can sure as hell change your future. Just learn better work habits and I guarantee you that life will be better. Good luck!
It's your parents fault for having sex. It's your fault that you reached the egg before everyone else.
Stop blaming people or yourself and work for what you want. That's pretty much what everyone in life does. Unless of course, you were given everything or opportunities.