I did the same thing as a preteen and teenager. I had issue with my mom growing up, and there were a a couple teachers and a boss that I got attached to, and a couple of times I think they understood and got close with me as well, and I got to the point where I trusted them and respected them very much but then they just moved on or didn't want to be that figure in my life. It's difficult because children need a strong, stable nurturing parent figure whos will guide them, and when young people don't get that at home, they turn elsewhere. Unfortunately, when you're young you don't always know how to protect yourself, and when someone reaches out and acts like that adult figure, you latch on emotionally and if they don't understand, or don't plan on following through, you end up getting hurt or feeling embarrassed. It's natural but there are rarely people who will understand enough, and know how to get you the proper help, or don't end up stepping up to be that figure. If there was one women figure that did accept you and want to help you and to mentor you like a mom, then that is great...and hopefully if you left, that doesn't mean she will stop being a friend, and I hope she would still be there for you to reach out to her in the future. If it was real, and her intentions of taking you on was true, then leaving school shouldn't mean your relationship should end. If you find her intentions were untrue, then take that for what it is and hopefully you have good friends that will be there for you. I wish you luck!
Is It normal I attach to people and see them as a mother like figure
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I did the same thing as a preteen and teenager. I had issue with my mom growing up, and there were a a couple teachers and a boss that I got attached to, and a couple of times I think they understood and got close with me as well, and I got to the point where I trusted them and respected them very much but then they just moved on or didn't want to be that figure in my life. It's difficult because children need a strong, stable nurturing parent figure whos will guide them, and when young people don't get that at home, they turn elsewhere. Unfortunately, when you're young you don't always know how to protect yourself, and when someone reaches out and acts like that adult figure, you latch on emotionally and if they don't understand, or don't plan on following through, you end up getting hurt or feeling embarrassed. It's natural but there are rarely people who will understand enough, and know how to get you the proper help, or don't end up stepping up to be that figure. If there was one women figure that did accept you and want to help you and to mentor you like a mom, then that is great...and hopefully if you left, that doesn't mean she will stop being a friend, and I hope she would still be there for you to reach out to her in the future. If it was real, and her intentions of taking you on was true, then leaving school shouldn't mean your relationship should end. If you find her intentions were untrue, then take that for what it is and hopefully you have good friends that will be there for you. I wish you luck!