Is it normal how i feel when she's not around?

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So I'm a guy in first year. I've been seeing this girl that I met at my college randomly one day. No immediate sexual attraction when I first laid eyes on her, though I found her outgoing-ness to be curiously attractive. Well about 2 weeks went by when we didn't see each other, because we had only talked briefly and introduced ourselves. So about midway through week 3 I see her in the cafeteria with a few of her friends. I naturally sit down and say hi, because I was looking for people I knew to have lunch with anyways. Well, we give each other our numbers and text each other throughout our respective boring classes after lunch, and she texts me about hanging out. I hadn't planned on doing anything anyways so I'm like sure. So we meet up and walk and talk for like 6 hours all over the place about anything and everything; it's so easy to talk to her and I'm feeling more comfortable around her and excited that I have a friend to hang out with. We end up walking to my place which isn't very far from the college. I'm not sure if i had any feelings for her at this point or if i was able to recognize them if i did. But it turns out we have a ridiculous number of things in common, which of course is great to know to be able to relate to each other. Anyways, we get back to my place and long story short I have sex with this girl I've known for less than half a day! Now I haven't been sexually active for about 3 years since this encounter, and I'm not sure why I did it, because I didn't think I was capable of emotionally detached sex.

Anyways, is it normal that after being an emotionally comfortable single guy without any SP's for at least 3 years, I now find limited satisfaction in activities when she isn't around? Before any of this started she told me she didn't want a relationship and I was in agreement; this is college after all. I don't want to scare her off by appearing clingy or super needy, but I've never felt detachment this intensely before, and I've only known her for a few days; though I've gotten to know her pretty well these past days. When we say goodbye after spending time together for a while she doesn't appear to be bothered nearly as much as I am about parting. I just need to chill I know, but I love her company so much.
Ugh, this sucks. A lot.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    Its going to take some time, meanwhile try hooking up with someone else. You'll get over her.

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    • Emotionalwreck
      12 years ago

      It may be 1/2 the 40 of vodka talking, but that actually sounds like good advice. And it's what I've been attempting.

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  • derker
    12 years ago

    Your answer lies in any Kelly Clarkson or Cyndi Lauper song. Listen to them all my friend.
    and then shoot yourself.

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    • [Old Memory]
      12 years ago

      NO NO NO!! Don't shoot yourself! It's normal, you will eventually get over it, just get together with her a normal amount, and try to find other interests to occupy your time when you arn't with her

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      • Emotionalwreck
        12 years ago

        Oh well it doesn't matter anymore because she doesn't want to see me anymore. I hit the gym like a gorilla on steroids then got wasted with school friends before 2pm. Good solution? Probably not because i still have her on my mind.

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        • pooItoy
          12 years ago

          don't despair my young friend. You're on the right track with the gym workouts and getting wasted with friends, if in fact it's not going to work out between you.

          However, you don't know how it's going to turn out. the fact that she doesnt want to see you anymore right at this moment doesn't necessarily mean jack squat.

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      • derker
        12 years ago

        trust me, if you listen to enough Kelly Clarkson and Cyndi Lauper, you're going to want to run your head over with a lawnmower, or atleast chop your ears off.

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