So you have never been to his house before? Have you ever met his parents?
There are 1726 reasons why he doesn't come visit that much anymore and probably 417 more reasons why he doesn't want you to visit him. Trying to give you a helpful answer on this would just be speculation, at best, on my (and any other user here) part.
It could be that he is ashamed of his family and doesn't want you to meet them because he thinks it might alter your opinion of him.
It could be that he is poor and doesn't live in a nice place and he is shy because of it.
It could be that he doesn't want you to bump into his other girlfriend who also happens to be the mother of his twin daughters.
It's just really hard :(
Do you have any more possibly useful information for us to work with?
I feel that you already waited this long for him... so what's the harm of giving it one more year? but make it a fruitful year where you communicate more upfront with him and let him know your thoughts, feelings and where he stands with you.
I would if only he'd be honest... I would give him the space if I didn't feel like I'm simply annoying for existing...he said it so many times in the past...trust me I gave him a year...And I really want this to work out...he says he wants that too yet he never does anything about it...
It sounds like you made up your mind already. it also seems like this has been brewing inside you for quite a while.
If you feel so strongly about leaving him, you should trust your gut. I can't imagine how it must be like to be you in this situation but I can tell you that it sounds like the best thing to do for yourself.
I get the sense that you feel trapped and deep down you know that if you delay this any longer you will feel like second best and having to settle for what he serves you up with.
Just make 100% sure that when/if you decide to break up with him, that it's a clean break and not one of those where you start missing him after a month :)
It sounds like you two are at different points in where you want this relationship to go. It also sounds like you don't need him.
Find someone who is on the same level as you are next time :)
Here's some advice : if you get into another relationship, be sure to look out for the little things that silently agitates you... because those little things grow into bigger things.
Is it normal he wont say why he wont come see me?
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How often do you go visit him?
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I would about once a week. But I never visited him once as he never let me to.
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So you have never been to his house before? Have you ever met his parents?
There are 1726 reasons why he doesn't come visit that much anymore and probably 417 more reasons why he doesn't want you to visit him. Trying to give you a helpful answer on this would just be speculation, at best, on my (and any other user here) part.
It could be that he is ashamed of his family and doesn't want you to meet them because he thinks it might alter your opinion of him.
It could be that he is poor and doesn't live in a nice place and he is shy because of it.
It could be that he doesn't want you to bump into his other girlfriend who also happens to be the mother of his twin daughters.
It's just really hard :(
Do you have any more possibly useful information for us to work with?
I feel that you already waited this long for him... so what's the harm of giving it one more year? but make it a fruitful year where you communicate more upfront with him and let him know your thoughts, feelings and where he stands with you.
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I would if only he'd be honest... I would give him the space if I didn't feel like I'm simply annoying for existing...he said it so many times in the past...trust me I gave him a year...And I really want this to work out...he says he wants that too yet he never does anything about it...
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It sounds like you made up your mind already. it also seems like this has been brewing inside you for quite a while.
If you feel so strongly about leaving him, you should trust your gut. I can't imagine how it must be like to be you in this situation but I can tell you that it sounds like the best thing to do for yourself.
I get the sense that you feel trapped and deep down you know that if you delay this any longer you will feel like second best and having to settle for what he serves you up with.
Just make 100% sure that when/if you decide to break up with him, that it's a clean break and not one of those where you start missing him after a month :)
It sounds like you two are at different points in where you want this relationship to go. It also sounds like you don't need him.
Find someone who is on the same level as you are next time :)
Here's some advice : if you get into another relationship, be sure to look out for the little things that silently agitates you... because those little things grow into bigger things.