I can see your frustration, and I can see why you would feel that way.
Like others have said on here though, you have to decide what you want out of your relationship. If you want a boyfriend, and he's a good boyfriend and he's caring and you love him and you like being around him, then I think that's all that really matters especially since you guys are both undergrad I'm assuming and fairly young. If you are looking to settle down and add the financial aspect to it more, then I think you need to let him know and see what he says/does and figure it out with that in mind.
He might not know how much it is bothering you. If you haven't already, I would talk to him about it in a nice way and definitely not call his pilot ambitions "stupid" or "silly" or anything. Maybe he will feel bad an offer to work more or something?
But as someone who is pretty young myself, I can say that I don't feel near ready to get a 9-5 job and start working full time. I kinda just want to figure out myself and my life and enjoy it and pursue my dreams and passions. And I think that you guys should both have the opportunity to do that. And if you're feeling the pressure because you feel he isn't pulling his weight and it's preventing you from enjoying your life, then you should let him know and you guys can work something out together. And you guys should BOTH be able to pursue your dreams and passions.
I think it's wonderful that you are an medic and that you are doing pre med. That is an ambitious career, but I think it's a wonderful career! I think that it's wonderful that your bf wants to be a pilot. That is an ambitious career, but it is a career that I think has a lot of opportunity and right now from what I hear, there is a nice window for that career. Who knows how long it will last, but hopefully if your bf is able to keep working through his training, he can have a nice window of opportunity there. And both of your career paths have potential to earn well over 6 figures. I wish you both the best with your passions!
IIN he wants to be a pilot
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I can see your frustration, and I can see why you would feel that way.
Like others have said on here though, you have to decide what you want out of your relationship. If you want a boyfriend, and he's a good boyfriend and he's caring and you love him and you like being around him, then I think that's all that really matters especially since you guys are both undergrad I'm assuming and fairly young. If you are looking to settle down and add the financial aspect to it more, then I think you need to let him know and see what he says/does and figure it out with that in mind.
He might not know how much it is bothering you. If you haven't already, I would talk to him about it in a nice way and definitely not call his pilot ambitions "stupid" or "silly" or anything. Maybe he will feel bad an offer to work more or something?
But as someone who is pretty young myself, I can say that I don't feel near ready to get a 9-5 job and start working full time. I kinda just want to figure out myself and my life and enjoy it and pursue my dreams and passions. And I think that you guys should both have the opportunity to do that. And if you're feeling the pressure because you feel he isn't pulling his weight and it's preventing you from enjoying your life, then you should let him know and you guys can work something out together. And you guys should BOTH be able to pursue your dreams and passions.
I think it's wonderful that you are an medic and that you are doing pre med. That is an ambitious career, but I think it's a wonderful career! I think that it's wonderful that your bf wants to be a pilot. That is an ambitious career, but it is a career that I think has a lot of opportunity and right now from what I hear, there is a nice window for that career. Who knows how long it will last, but hopefully if your bf is able to keep working through his training, he can have a nice window of opportunity there. And both of your career paths have potential to earn well over 6 figures. I wish you both the best with your passions!