Haha well neither of you guys picked an "easy" road, but both of those paths have potential to be making well over 6 figures in 5-10 years. I can see where your frustration would come in, as you probably feel like you are pulling a lot of the weight. He's invested in the long term right now, so yeah he could go get a full time job, but in 10 years, where's he gonna be?
I think if you haven't already, you should talk to him about it and just let him know how you feel in a nice way. Maybe he'll feel bad and offer to work more. But I'm assuming that you guys are both undergraduate, and therefore pretty young, and ideally those are the years to try to kind of figure out what you want to do and take some time to not be working all the time if you don't have to.
Also I mean like some others have said, you have to decide what you want out of your relationship. If you want a boyfriend, and he's a good boyfriend and he's caring and you love him and you like being around him, then I think as long as you guys are young, that's really all that matters. If you're looking to settle down and add the financial thing into the equation, then that's something that you kind of have to consider and you have to establish that with him and let him know that matters and take it from there.
I think you guys should both pursue your dreams! And encourage each other to do so! If he wants to be a pilot, then awesome! It really has a lot of potential as a career and there's a nice little window in the industry right now if he gets his training done fairly quickly from what I hear. But if you are feeling financial pressure, I think you should let him know in a nice way and hopefully he'll try to help. He might not know that it's bugging you.
IIN he wants to be a pilot
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Haha well neither of you guys picked an "easy" road, but both of those paths have potential to be making well over 6 figures in 5-10 years. I can see where your frustration would come in, as you probably feel like you are pulling a lot of the weight. He's invested in the long term right now, so yeah he could go get a full time job, but in 10 years, where's he gonna be?
I think if you haven't already, you should talk to him about it and just let him know how you feel in a nice way. Maybe he'll feel bad and offer to work more. But I'm assuming that you guys are both undergraduate, and therefore pretty young, and ideally those are the years to try to kind of figure out what you want to do and take some time to not be working all the time if you don't have to.
Also I mean like some others have said, you have to decide what you want out of your relationship. If you want a boyfriend, and he's a good boyfriend and he's caring and you love him and you like being around him, then I think as long as you guys are young, that's really all that matters. If you're looking to settle down and add the financial thing into the equation, then that's something that you kind of have to consider and you have to establish that with him and let him know that matters and take it from there.
I think you guys should both pursue your dreams! And encourage each other to do so! If he wants to be a pilot, then awesome! It really has a lot of potential as a career and there's a nice little window in the industry right now if he gets his training done fairly quickly from what I hear. But if you are feeling financial pressure, I think you should let him know in a nice way and hopefully he'll try to help. He might not know that it's bugging you.