Tell him it makes you uncomfortable and ask him to stop. If he cares about you, he should stop immediately and never do it again.
If he is an emotional abuser, then he simply wont stop. However there are two things you need to watch out for:
1. "Babe, I'm just joking. You can't take a joke? I didn't know you were so sensitive." This is one of the famous lines many abusers use to make you feel guilty, stupid, and sad for the horrible shit they do to you. Don't fall for it.
2. When it happens again. Another famous thing a lot of abusers do is they will stop their crap for a short time (between a few hours to a few weeks, give or take). During this down time, they treat you amazingly well (almost like how he did when you two first met or started dating). All your problems are solved!? Nope. Once the abuser feels they apologized enough, they go right back into calling you names (and more) and it's worse than before.
Save yourself a lot of time and end the relationship as soon as 1 or 2 happens, because he's not going to change no matter how much love you feed him. Good luck.
Is it normal he calls me a "cunt" jokingly?
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Tell him it makes you uncomfortable and ask him to stop. If he cares about you, he should stop immediately and never do it again.
If he is an emotional abuser, then he simply wont stop. However there are two things you need to watch out for:
1. "Babe, I'm just joking. You can't take a joke? I didn't know you were so sensitive." This is one of the famous lines many abusers use to make you feel guilty, stupid, and sad for the horrible shit they do to you. Don't fall for it.
2. When it happens again. Another famous thing a lot of abusers do is they will stop their crap for a short time (between a few hours to a few weeks, give or take). During this down time, they treat you amazingly well (almost like how he did when you two first met or started dating). All your problems are solved!? Nope. Once the abuser feels they apologized enough, they go right back into calling you names (and more) and it's worse than before.
Save yourself a lot of time and end the relationship as soon as 1 or 2 happens, because he's not going to change no matter how much love you feed him. Good luck.