She doesn't have to have been in the exact same position as you to understand how you feel. She understands because she has empathy even if she doesn't have experience. She's just trying to help you, but you call her immature and annoying and get angry at her just for having good intentions. I agree with kelili, you sound like the annoying one.
Having empathy isn't having previous experience and 'knowing what it feels like', as she says. She clearly doesn't know what it feels like. Having empathy is just being there for someone even when you haven't experienced it yourself. Sympathy is when you have had previous experience.
I really don't know how I am annoying?
You've got empathy and sympathy the wrong way around, although neither necessitates previous experience.
If you were my friend and I was trying to be there for you, but when I tried to comfort you I was met with patronisation and anger, I would find that annoying.
I have never, ever shown anger towards my friends. Never have and never will. If one of my friends do something that does make me slightly angry (I'm not an angry person in general so it takes a lot), I make a polite excuse and then go and deal with the issues myself. I have barely shown anger to anyone in my life, never mind friends. They are the ones who deserve the highest respect and that's what they get from me, always.
IIN friends who think they understand, are annoying?
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She doesn't have to have been in the exact same position as you to understand how you feel. She understands because she has empathy even if she doesn't have experience. She's just trying to help you, but you call her immature and annoying and get angry at her just for having good intentions. I agree with kelili, you sound like the annoying one.
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Having empathy isn't having previous experience and 'knowing what it feels like', as she says. She clearly doesn't know what it feels like. Having empathy is just being there for someone even when you haven't experienced it yourself. Sympathy is when you have had previous experience.
I really don't know how I am annoying?
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You've got empathy and sympathy the wrong way around, although neither necessitates previous experience.
If you were my friend and I was trying to be there for you, but when I tried to comfort you I was met with patronisation and anger, I would find that annoying.
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I have never, ever shown anger towards my friends. Never have and never will. If one of my friends do something that does make me slightly angry (I'm not an angry person in general so it takes a lot), I make a polite excuse and then go and deal with the issues myself. I have barely shown anger to anyone in my life, never mind friends. They are the ones who deserve the highest respect and that's what they get from me, always.
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I must have interpreted you wrongly then, because the word "exploded" certainly indicates anger to me.
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I mentally exploded, she pulled my last string and explained the situation to her in the nicest way possible.