Good for you. I agree with almost all of what Boojum says; with a slightly different.
We are all sexual human beings and it is normal for use to react to an awesome physical specimen that shows up in our lives. However, as you mature you realize that those are not the most common.
With that being said... Every now and then my wife will see my eyes linger and she will even verbally acknowledge that the lady is "hot" or "looks good." Likewise, every now and then her eyes will linger and I'll say he's in great shape. We both smile at these moments. It does not mean we don't love each other or care. We are human and understand that we both will notice and react to the right person.
We have found that its a lot easier on both of us to be honest with all kinds of things - and neither of us are offended by that.
The other reality is that beyond physical appearance - both of us focus on how they think and their values before considering anyone as a friend.
My advice: Find someone who only notices the exceptional, and allow him some flexibility on that when it occurs. Ask for the same in return.
Is it normal for your boyfriend to call other women hot all the time?
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Good for you. I agree with almost all of what Boojum says; with a slightly different.
We are all sexual human beings and it is normal for use to react to an awesome physical specimen that shows up in our lives. However, as you mature you realize that those are not the most common.
With that being said... Every now and then my wife will see my eyes linger and she will even verbally acknowledge that the lady is "hot" or "looks good." Likewise, every now and then her eyes will linger and I'll say he's in great shape. We both smile at these moments. It does not mean we don't love each other or care. We are human and understand that we both will notice and react to the right person.
We have found that its a lot easier on both of us to be honest with all kinds of things - and neither of us are offended by that.
The other reality is that beyond physical appearance - both of us focus on how they think and their values before considering anyone as a friend.
My advice: Find someone who only notices the exceptional, and allow him some flexibility on that when it occurs. Ask for the same in return.