Try to always remember that such judgements of you have no objective reality, and they only have power over you if you allow them to. There are plenty of facts in the world and some things are undeniably true or false, but opinions are just a bunch of neurons firing in a pattern in someone's head and they only form a particular pattern because of all the random shit that's happened in the person's life up to that point.
In this case, the most significant random shit appears to have been that your ex was born into a family of idiots. Being hated by idiots is actually a badge you should wear proudly.
The fact that the whole family seems to have gone ballistic over your decision suggests a couple of things. First, it may be that they realise on some level that their attitude to such matters is abnormal and just generally messed up, and they deal with that by calling anyone who disagrees with them crazy. Also, the fact that they reacted as they did pretty clearly suggests that they thought you were something special. If you weren't, why should they care if you dumped the dweeb?
Ignore the texts, learn what you can from the experience and move forward.
Is it normal for your boyfriend to call other women hot all the time?
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Try to always remember that such judgements of you have no objective reality, and they only have power over you if you allow them to. There are plenty of facts in the world and some things are undeniably true or false, but opinions are just a bunch of neurons firing in a pattern in someone's head and they only form a particular pattern because of all the random shit that's happened in the person's life up to that point.
In this case, the most significant random shit appears to have been that your ex was born into a family of idiots. Being hated by idiots is actually a badge you should wear proudly.
The fact that the whole family seems to have gone ballistic over your decision suggests a couple of things. First, it may be that they realise on some level that their attitude to such matters is abnormal and just generally messed up, and they deal with that by calling anyone who disagrees with them crazy. Also, the fact that they reacted as they did pretty clearly suggests that they thought you were something special. If you weren't, why should they care if you dumped the dweeb?
Ignore the texts, learn what you can from the experience and move forward.