That sounds terrible for you and your children. What church is it? It sounds more like a cult to me, in which case I don't know what you can do about it except hope the obsession wears off eventually. It must feel as if she's having an affair with god!
It's very similar to addiction I reckon: I've been in relationships with addicts in the past and it's as if there's a third party in the relationship who's impossible to compete with because it always takes priority.
Have you thought of talking to people at her church to check out if this is normal behaviour for their members or is it just her, in which case maybe the pastor could intervene in some way? Just a thought ..... personally I find it a waste of time & energy to try & reason with fanatics because the rational part of their brains is turned off.
I wish you all the best and would appreciate an update at some time: take care of yourself and your kids first
Yes, I have spoken with them about it, and they said that I was not supportive enough. That is the problem with many organized religions. They manipulate people into thinking that they cannot survive without them, and then a gullible person becomes dependent.
I take care of the kids, just fine. She takes them, and I let them make up their minds if they want to go, but I'll have no part of it. I will go to an occasional event to support the kids. I am treated as an outcast by the congregation, which is no skin off my nose. Things will quickly come to light. I have a good, cautious idea on how to confront this issue.
Yes, you are correct...it is like an addiction, and there is no penetrating the will of an already made up mind. I can stand and point to the color blue, and they still insist it is green.
Thank you for your support, and I will continue to update as things unfold.
I doubt it is the church unless she is going to something weird like scientology. For instance in both the Jewish and Christian churches sex in marriage is in kins of mandatory unless BOTH agree on not having it and even at that it is something you check often to see if that is still the case.
But that does not stop other church goers to expressed their uniform opinion (which goes against the church's mandates)
It seems to me that you're doing all you can in very difficult circumstances. The only other suggestion I have would be for you to get some support from others in similar situations: there are groups for families and survivors of these sorts of religions which you could find on the internet.
Once again, good luck with it: as the survivor of a fundamentalist christian upbringing, my thoughts are with you
Is it normal for wife to not want sex?
↑ View this comment's parent
← View full post
That sounds terrible for you and your children. What church is it? It sounds more like a cult to me, in which case I don't know what you can do about it except hope the obsession wears off eventually. It must feel as if she's having an affair with god!
It's very similar to addiction I reckon: I've been in relationships with addicts in the past and it's as if there's a third party in the relationship who's impossible to compete with because it always takes priority.
Have you thought of talking to people at her church to check out if this is normal behaviour for their members or is it just her, in which case maybe the pastor could intervene in some way? Just a thought ..... personally I find it a waste of time & energy to try & reason with fanatics because the rational part of their brains is turned off.
I wish you all the best and would appreciate an update at some time: take care of yourself and your kids first
--
Cravingit247
7 years ago
|
pl
Comment Hidden (
show
)
Report
0
0
Yes, I have spoken with them about it, and they said that I was not supportive enough. That is the problem with many organized religions. They manipulate people into thinking that they cannot survive without them, and then a gullible person becomes dependent.
I take care of the kids, just fine. She takes them, and I let them make up their minds if they want to go, but I'll have no part of it. I will go to an occasional event to support the kids. I am treated as an outcast by the congregation, which is no skin off my nose. Things will quickly come to light. I have a good, cautious idea on how to confront this issue.
Yes, you are correct...it is like an addiction, and there is no penetrating the will of an already made up mind. I can stand and point to the color blue, and they still insist it is green.
Thank you for your support, and I will continue to update as things unfold.
--
WillDoIt
7 years ago
|
pl
Comment Hidden (
show
)
Report
0
0
-
Ellenna
7 years ago
|
pl
Comment Hidden (
show
)
Report
0
0
I doubt it is the church unless she is going to something weird like scientology. For instance in both the Jewish and Christian churches sex in marriage is in kins of mandatory unless BOTH agree on not having it and even at that it is something you check often to see if that is still the case.
But that does not stop other church goers to expressed their uniform opinion (which goes against the church's mandates)
It seems to me that you're doing all you can in very difficult circumstances. The only other suggestion I have would be for you to get some support from others in similar situations: there are groups for families and survivors of these sorts of religions which you could find on the internet.
Once again, good luck with it: as the survivor of a fundamentalist christian upbringing, my thoughts are with you