Honestly, I have listened to my friends. I don't constantly try to get in contact with her. We sit next to each other in class every other day, and when I see her, all I say is "Good morning!" and she'll respond--that's it. I don't try to talk to her anymore. I tried once and was shot down, then I misread stuff she did and tried again and immediately told her that I understood that we'd just be friends when she said no. I'll continue to leave her alone, but is there no chance that with time she might realize I'm not interested anymore, too? It's just so confusing since I got the hint, but don't know how to express that I got the hint, you know?
You keep questioning it. I really can't stress this enough. Leave her alone. You pissed her off by not respecting her boundaries. So quit it. Respect her boundaries. Stay away. She might talk to you again. She might not. But leave her alone.
What I'm trying to say is that I am actively trying to be respectful of her boundaries and am trying to give her space. But, for instance, this morning after our class, she walked with me and talked. I'm not forcing her to walk with me or anything. We're still not talking the way we used to before this all happened, but she is talking to me a little bit. I'm wondering what this means since I feel like I'm getting mixed signals--sometimes I feel like she doesn't want to talk to me at all and other times, I feel like she's okay with walking/talking with me.
You're seriously over-analyzing it. Just keep leaving her alone. Reciprocate with her when she talks to you but otherwise, leave her alone.
There are no mixed signals here. You're her friend, who violated her boundaries, it will take her a while to feel comfortable with you again. She likely doesn't feel anything for you, she's not trying to send signals. She's just trying to get comfortable again. So leave her alone.
Haha okay... I feel like you think I'm still pursuing her and stalking her. I'm not, which is what I'm trying to explain to you. But I will continue to give her space. Thanks!
Is it normal for this girl to be ignoring me after I asked her out?
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Honestly, I have listened to my friends. I don't constantly try to get in contact with her. We sit next to each other in class every other day, and when I see her, all I say is "Good morning!" and she'll respond--that's it. I don't try to talk to her anymore. I tried once and was shot down, then I misread stuff she did and tried again and immediately told her that I understood that we'd just be friends when she said no. I'll continue to leave her alone, but is there no chance that with time she might realize I'm not interested anymore, too? It's just so confusing since I got the hint, but don't know how to express that I got the hint, you know?
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You keep questioning it. I really can't stress this enough. Leave her alone. You pissed her off by not respecting her boundaries. So quit it. Respect her boundaries. Stay away. She might talk to you again. She might not. But leave her alone.
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What I'm trying to say is that I am actively trying to be respectful of her boundaries and am trying to give her space. But, for instance, this morning after our class, she walked with me and talked. I'm not forcing her to walk with me or anything. We're still not talking the way we used to before this all happened, but she is talking to me a little bit. I'm wondering what this means since I feel like I'm getting mixed signals--sometimes I feel like she doesn't want to talk to me at all and other times, I feel like she's okay with walking/talking with me.
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You're seriously over-analyzing it. Just keep leaving her alone. Reciprocate with her when she talks to you but otherwise, leave her alone.
There are no mixed signals here. You're her friend, who violated her boundaries, it will take her a while to feel comfortable with you again. She likely doesn't feel anything for you, she's not trying to send signals. She's just trying to get comfortable again. So leave her alone.
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Haha okay... I feel like you think I'm still pursuing her and stalking her. I'm not, which is what I'm trying to explain to you. But I will continue to give her space. Thanks!
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No, I didn't get that impression.