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My fiancé has always washed the dishes for my parents after a holiday meal or any breakfast/dinner he’s had while visiting and I’ve always thought it was very sweet of him.
Is this a common thing? Seems odd for guests to go to work or do chores after being served.
Just from reading the way you describe the simple thing he did, he sounds like a truly amazing guy. You're lucky to have such a sweet fiancé. Congrats.
I live in Britain, and my experience is that it's common for guests who are close friends to pitch in with clearing the table after a meal and offer to help with the washing up. It's not something that's expected as a matter of course, and not making the offer won't result in you never being asked back, but it's normal (at least among my circle of middle-class friends).
I'm particular about washing-up, so I always decline the offer. That doesn't cause offence either.
It seems to me a courteous thing to do, and it suggests that your fiancé is a guy who was brought up well and he isn't one of those jerks who believes that anything to do with the kitchen is women's work.
Yes it shows good manners to help with cleaning up following a meal as a guest. I always do it. It is up to the host to tell them to not help. But it can be a good bonding experience and shows proper upbringing on his parents part.
I have a dishwasher, but I dislike filling it up and turning it on.
My parents also have a dishwasher, so sometimes I'd load up the dishes instead of my mom, but I have absolutely no desire to wash dishes by hand.
I'd rather hire someone and pay them, than do it myself.
I hate manual labor.
Not normal.
But, very cool.
hes a keeper.
Not afraid to get in there and help out.
I always clean up the kitchen at my boyfriends house but lm there 5 days of the week.
I like helping out the host. it ceapes interactions going so the host isn't running around and the gest isn't doing nothing/ doing something without the host. who they came to see.
It's a very nice gesture, but I wouldn't say it's common at all. Where I'm from, it's common for the homeowners to take care of the guests, so to speak.
I guess if it's an informal dinner then it's normal. Maybe he'd prefer to be more friendly with your parents than for it to be all serious around them?
I always wash my dishes when someone's been kind enough to invite me over and spend their money on food I'm going to eat.
But that's just me. I doubt very much that it's normal, so I voted "not normal".
I always offer to but people seem to think I'm weird for it, even though I can tell they secretly want me to :\ I like washing dishes, so it's even more fun at someone else's house. lol