There's introversion and extroversion, but most people will fluctuate between the two depending on mood.
It's common to stigmatise the extremes of both - extroversion as being needy, attention-seeking, arrogant, high maintenance, introversion as being socially awkward, arrogant, weird.
Because society relies upon human interaction and most of us have an instinctive desire to socialise in some capacity, the avoidance of human interaction is seen as a negative; perhaps as counter-productive, rude, unhelpful or as a rejection.
Your co-workers, for example, probably assume you don't want to socialise because you don't like them, so react negatively to the feeling of rejection.
In fact I'd say a lot of the negative reception you're getting is due to presumptuousness, and you could save yourself a lot of trouble by being open about your introversion. When people ask you about why you're so withdrawn or evasive, explain that you're quite introverted, that you just naturally keep yourself to yourself and it's nothing to do with not liking people or being shy. Or even if they don't ask, if you get the impression they might be unhappy about it, pre-empt them and explain how you feel.
If you clear up any misunderstandings in a friendly manner before they arise, you might be able to avoid the negativity.
The only problem is that people don't ask me anything at all they seem to make up their minds pretty quickly. people judge others instantly on first appearances and then lock you in to that stereotype for example I lift my hand to talk and immediately someone starts talking over me if I get mad and say : yo dude I'm talking can you chill out for a sec... I don't just become the quiet guy I also become the angry or resentful quiet guy you see what I mean. Also while I understand the communication is vital...mindless babble is not. If I have to say something vital I will say it.
Don't be silent about it, when they talk to you, openly admit in a humorous manner that you prefer Netflix to people lol. Try to make it seem funny and not "I hate people"-esque.
I'm sorry for you, though. I have never had such a rough experience in school. For a class full of grown adults, they do sound like jackasses.
My fiance goes through crap for being an introvert, as well as being 6'5 and in shape. Unfortunately I gotta get off here right now, but I'll catch up on this tonight.
Is it normal for people to target introverts?
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There's introversion and extroversion, but most people will fluctuate between the two depending on mood.
It's common to stigmatise the extremes of both - extroversion as being needy, attention-seeking, arrogant, high maintenance, introversion as being socially awkward, arrogant, weird.
Because society relies upon human interaction and most of us have an instinctive desire to socialise in some capacity, the avoidance of human interaction is seen as a negative; perhaps as counter-productive, rude, unhelpful or as a rejection.
Your co-workers, for example, probably assume you don't want to socialise because you don't like them, so react negatively to the feeling of rejection.
In fact I'd say a lot of the negative reception you're getting is due to presumptuousness, and you could save yourself a lot of trouble by being open about your introversion. When people ask you about why you're so withdrawn or evasive, explain that you're quite introverted, that you just naturally keep yourself to yourself and it's nothing to do with not liking people or being shy. Or even if they don't ask, if you get the impression they might be unhappy about it, pre-empt them and explain how you feel.
If you clear up any misunderstandings in a friendly manner before they arise, you might be able to avoid the negativity.
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The only problem is that people don't ask me anything at all they seem to make up their minds pretty quickly. people judge others instantly on first appearances and then lock you in to that stereotype for example I lift my hand to talk and immediately someone starts talking over me if I get mad and say : yo dude I'm talking can you chill out for a sec... I don't just become the quiet guy I also become the angry or resentful quiet guy you see what I mean. Also while I understand the communication is vital...mindless babble is not. If I have to say something vital I will say it.
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Don't be silent about it, when they talk to you, openly admit in a humorous manner that you prefer Netflix to people lol. Try to make it seem funny and not "I hate people"-esque.
I'm sorry for you, though. I have never had such a rough experience in school. For a class full of grown adults, they do sound like jackasses.
My fiance goes through crap for being an introvert, as well as being 6'5 and in shape. Unfortunately I gotta get off here right now, but I'll catch up on this tonight.