It sounds to me like your trying to win us over, only giving a partial truth and trying to play down his reasons for calling the police as a means of closure for feelings of guilt like a part of you knows his actions were partially justified and anger that he called the police on you. We don't know his side of the story, so I'm not convinced I want to enable you and say what he did is over react.
Though, I do understand your position. When I started a job as a delivery driver and there was this girl at one of my stops which was an outlet store of the company I drive for, she sent a friend request to me over face book. I accepted it cause it would be rude not to but still didn't talk to her when I was there to avoid drama "don't shit where you eat". Over the roughly 5 months that these events took place, I sent maybe 5 friendly messages on her status updates so I didn't come off entirely cold with my avoiding her at work. She finally quit her job cause I guess my not talking to her made her anxious but I was just trying to avoid "romantic drama" at work. After she quit and became available in my eyes with her being at another job not linked to mine. I sent a text message to her phone number from her face book page wishing her luck at her new job and letting her know I was interested but was avoiding drama. I guess she and her 3 friends who worked at the outlet store forgot about this being on her page and accused me of "stalking" her and called the police on me. The police actually ended up coming to my work place cause of this, yes..cause of a few friendly messages on face book and one text message. When the cop heard my side he thought it was funny but he had to talk to me cause its part of his job. It made me the target of twisted gossip for my other coworkers like I'm a perverted weirdo and passively get bullied by a couple of guys there still 3 years later and everyone still kind of avoids me and I kind of avoid them to cause of how I feel around them cause of all this and it caused a lot of tension with the remaining girls at the store she worked at, they would intentionally flirt with this other driver to try to make me look like a fool for not wanting to flirt at work for example. All this drama was the one thing I was trying to avoid. They brought in a new manager to the outlet store and he found out what happened and fired all the girls there and runs the place on his own with one other helper. I'm sure this girl was semi interested at first and If I went along and talked to her something could of happened, but I didn't want that. It wasn't a case of mix signals though it kind of became that, she'd often come over to say hi while she took stuff to my area that could of waited until I was gone and she was the only one to do it, like they all knew she liked me and weren't trying to "cock block" her, and I noticed her unzipping her pullover coat exposing cleavage when I was there or before she would come over.Coincidence...maybe...but the look she gave to me other wise. Other times when Id be sitting there and shed bend over to fiddle with something and her bent over ass in her yoga pants would be like 4 feet from my face and her thong would ride up in her ass. When I didn't respond or give her the attention I guess I became the "creepy guy". I didn't want the romance at work and I feel like a dick when I respond to and when girls give over sexualized advances like that. It makes mixed feelings, they want you to like them for them and not look at them like they're meat then get mad when you don't look at them like meat, I get it though, they want you to like them for them and still want to feel sexy. Though I like my job, I'm almost ready to try to find a new one due to the bad first impression I made cause of this. How do I always go off on messages like this...im gonna end it now..
Is it normal for people to get so upset over a phone call?
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It sounds to me like your trying to win us over, only giving a partial truth and trying to play down his reasons for calling the police as a means of closure for feelings of guilt like a part of you knows his actions were partially justified and anger that he called the police on you. We don't know his side of the story, so I'm not convinced I want to enable you and say what he did is over react.
Though, I do understand your position. When I started a job as a delivery driver and there was this girl at one of my stops which was an outlet store of the company I drive for, she sent a friend request to me over face book. I accepted it cause it would be rude not to but still didn't talk to her when I was there to avoid drama "don't shit where you eat". Over the roughly 5 months that these events took place, I sent maybe 5 friendly messages on her status updates so I didn't come off entirely cold with my avoiding her at work. She finally quit her job cause I guess my not talking to her made her anxious but I was just trying to avoid "romantic drama" at work. After she quit and became available in my eyes with her being at another job not linked to mine. I sent a text message to her phone number from her face book page wishing her luck at her new job and letting her know I was interested but was avoiding drama. I guess she and her 3 friends who worked at the outlet store forgot about this being on her page and accused me of "stalking" her and called the police on me. The police actually ended up coming to my work place cause of this, yes..cause of a few friendly messages on face book and one text message. When the cop heard my side he thought it was funny but he had to talk to me cause its part of his job. It made me the target of twisted gossip for my other coworkers like I'm a perverted weirdo and passively get bullied by a couple of guys there still 3 years later and everyone still kind of avoids me and I kind of avoid them to cause of how I feel around them cause of all this and it caused a lot of tension with the remaining girls at the store she worked at, they would intentionally flirt with this other driver to try to make me look like a fool for not wanting to flirt at work for example. All this drama was the one thing I was trying to avoid. They brought in a new manager to the outlet store and he found out what happened and fired all the girls there and runs the place on his own with one other helper. I'm sure this girl was semi interested at first and If I went along and talked to her something could of happened, but I didn't want that. It wasn't a case of mix signals though it kind of became that, she'd often come over to say hi while she took stuff to my area that could of waited until I was gone and she was the only one to do it, like they all knew she liked me and weren't trying to "cock block" her, and I noticed her unzipping her pullover coat exposing cleavage when I was there or before she would come over.Coincidence...maybe...but the look she gave to me other wise. Other times when Id be sitting there and shed bend over to fiddle with something and her bent over ass in her yoga pants would be like 4 feet from my face and her thong would ride up in her ass. When I didn't respond or give her the attention I guess I became the "creepy guy". I didn't want the romance at work and I feel like a dick when I respond to and when girls give over sexualized advances like that. It makes mixed feelings, they want you to like them for them and not look at them like they're meat then get mad when you don't look at them like meat, I get it though, they want you to like them for them and still want to feel sexy. Though I like my job, I'm almost ready to try to find a new one due to the bad first impression I made cause of this. How do I always go off on messages like this...im gonna end it now..