Is it normal for people to fall for their best friend?

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I first met my best friend 8 years on my first day at work in the office & developed an instant crush on her. Not long after, we started to work very closely with one another & we soon became close friends after work. I kept things at a professional level & we both remained colleagues & very good friends throughout these years. She has now left the organization for better career opportunity elsewhere but we are still keeping in close touch.

I am gay & so is she. The both of us have just been out of a relationship & I have been spending lots of time with her of late trying to cheer her up.
She has also she has been diagnosed with cancer just a couple months ago & is seeking necessary treatment. I am extremely devastated & am praying she will recover.

I have this urge in me that tells me I should let my best friend know about how I feel towards her. I just couldn't summon enough courage to do so, fearing she might not feel the same towards me & it will then end our good acquaintance.

I am feeling extremely miserable right now & have no one else to turn to since I am not totally out. I miss her very very much when I don't hear from her or see her these days.

Should I take the risk & tell my best friend the truth? Or do I continue to keep it a secret & suffer in silence?

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Based on 62 votes (60 yes)
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  • kellstar
    13 years ago

    Totally agree with above poster!!! Do it!!

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    • mademoiselle
      13 years ago

      kellstar - thank you for your support! i hope my best friend will give me a chance.

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  • rozuhro23
    13 years ago

    I am truthfully sorry to hear that your best friend has cancer :( I have family members diagnosed with cancer as well, I understand what you are going through. To my experience, I honestly think you should tell her how you feel. Even if you can't get it out, and you just don't know how to tell or say, try. People only live once, and I think everyone should take a risk once in a while. If you really do like her, I feel its best that she should know how you feel for her. Take a chance at it, and you will see its a risk you will never regret.

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    • mademoiselle
      13 years ago

      rozhuro23 - thank you very much for your input! appreciate it! i do agree with you on the risk taking part. we only live once therefore there are times risk is necessary.

      apart from being down with cancer, my best friend is also currently nursing a broken heart. her ex left her 2 months ago & she still can't get over her ex. it was so bad that she even refused to continue with the treatment as she feels like is meaningless without her ex. i had a hard time convincing her to resume treatment & am glad she is continuing with the treatment.

      i will need to find the right moment & tell her about the feelings i have for her as she has so many things going on in her life now. i certainly hope she will give me a chance to love & take care of her during this difficult time. please pray for me.

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  • Poomplex
    13 years ago

    You have obviously grown very attatched to your friend, i would tell her. If you keep it to yourself it will just drive you crazy and will eat youaway. The best thing you can have is a clear mind to help your friend through this difficult time even if you only remain friends....

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  • mademoiselle
    13 years ago

    Poomplex - i have been in love with my best friend for about 8 years already. No one else but myself knows about this. it is only till a couple days ago that i stumbled upon this website & decided to pour my heart out via in here as i badly need to ventilate.

    over the years, i have tried to get over this feeling & but i've failed. whenever she is down or needs a friend, i will drop everything just to be there for her. in fact when i was still in a relationship with my ex, my best friend has never left my heart.

    irregardless of whether she accepts me as her partner or just as a best friend, i will definitely stick with her throughout this difficult period. i love her so much that i wouldn't mind if she loves me on a rebound.

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