I understand that common sense isn't common, but this girl isn't even close to getting over her ex-boyfriend, yet you thought you could change that with time and a ring? No. Only she can change those feelings if she allows herself to get over them, which she isn't.
Never ever involve yourself with someone who isn't over a previous relationship, because it's not you they're dating, but the idea of their ex; you're going to be constantly compared to the ex, and be a source of disappointment when you don't match up to the previous person. You basically have to work hard to be someone you're not, instead of being loved or even liked for being yourself.
You can either divorce and test your luck again with another woman, or you can go to marriage counseling.
I love her unconditionally. It makes me even more devoted to her knowing she is torn between two lovers and she stays with me. No other woman could ever make me feel this way.
Realistically, you're just the guy she settled for when the guy she wanted was unavailable, overtime she developed loyalty to you to the point that cheating will make her feel guilty; but it doesn't change that fact that she thought about it. In the end you're the 2nd place prize, the silver metal. Being 2nd place isn't all that bad, but everyone will always want 1st place; and in your wife's case, she needs to appreciate you more than long for her ex. However, if romanticizing her obsession with her ex is helping you cope, then keep at it.
I know. But she is an extremely pretty woman. Petite, beautiful eyes. And she has a distant, but compelling personality that I cannot get over. I find her irresistable, and I think other women would never measure up. If I found another woman, I would be doing to her what my wife does to me - I would be in love with my ex, and the new woman would be settling for 2nd place.
Is it normal for my Wife to still be in love with Her ex boyfriend?
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Why did you marry this?
I understand that common sense isn't common, but this girl isn't even close to getting over her ex-boyfriend, yet you thought you could change that with time and a ring? No. Only she can change those feelings if she allows herself to get over them, which she isn't.
Never ever involve yourself with someone who isn't over a previous relationship, because it's not you they're dating, but the idea of their ex; you're going to be constantly compared to the ex, and be a source of disappointment when you don't match up to the previous person. You basically have to work hard to be someone you're not, instead of being loved or even liked for being yourself.
You can either divorce and test your luck again with another woman, or you can go to marriage counseling.
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I love her unconditionally. It makes me even more devoted to her knowing she is torn between two lovers and she stays with me. No other woman could ever make me feel this way.
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This is not a romance novel.
Realistically, you're just the guy she settled for when the guy she wanted was unavailable, overtime she developed loyalty to you to the point that cheating will make her feel guilty; but it doesn't change that fact that she thought about it. In the end you're the 2nd place prize, the silver metal. Being 2nd place isn't all that bad, but everyone will always want 1st place; and in your wife's case, she needs to appreciate you more than long for her ex. However, if romanticizing her obsession with her ex is helping you cope, then keep at it.
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I know. But she is an extremely pretty woman. Petite, beautiful eyes. And she has a distant, but compelling personality that I cannot get over. I find her irresistable, and I think other women would never measure up. If I found another woman, I would be doing to her what my wife does to me - I would be in love with my ex, and the new woman would be settling for 2nd place.