Okay. Your relationship reminds me so much of my parents relationship. My mom is extroverted, my dad is antisocial. She comes home and cooks and cleans and exercises and he comes home and watches tv all night and goes to bed at 8:30 and reads until he falls asleep. She has tons of friends and keeps busy all the time, he has none (I'm not saying you have no friends, but you clearly don't have tons). The bad news is that eventually my mom couldn't take it anymore and got so bored that she has gone outside of their marriage for the fulfillment that she just doesn't get from my dad. They've been married for 30 years, so believe me, she has tried.
I don't know your wife but as an outsider, it is my opinion that there is no way she is not sleeping with this other guy. It's not normal for a wife to go away for a week with another man. Not even close to normal. You're a man: would you go away on holiday for a week, alone with a woman, and not expect to get some? To her credit (still just my opinion) at least she's being semi honest with you. She could have told you she was going away with a girlfriend.
Your wife is aging, but she still looks good. She's still "got it." She is bored with you. "Release" and "escape" is code for "I need something new and exciting." She is practically screaming for your attention.
What about you? You're aging too; think it's time to come out of your shell and enjoy life while there's still time? Take weekend trips with her. Road trips, camping, go find small cute towns to wander around in. Put some romance back into your marriage. Start working out with her, go for long walks together when you get home from work, go hiking on the weekends. You better show some effort or you're going to lose her.
People are different and have different taste. My fiance likes some stupid things and I don't but yet she doesn't understand why I like my things. However, minus my FIRST question on "Is it Normal," I haven't cheated on my fiance nor has she cheated on me.
People are different and require different things. However, no way in hell would she ever just want to "vacation" with a different guy or let me talk to my exgirlfriend before her. It is just common sense in a relationship and we both set boundaries for the other like that.
Hi Jenny! Thanks for taking your time out for such a comprehensive reply. With your handicap of having to analyse on the mere paragraph, and not knowing us in person, you have hit a few nails pretty close to the head.
In fact, I have pledged a few days ago to seriously lose the extra kilos. The walks with my wife are also on.
I guess I just need to stay positive and engage her more wholesomely.
While I am the quiet type, I am not a total introvert; however, I do need to take more interest in others, be more social, so to say.
The aspect of my wife sleeping with the other man- well, I can put it down to a culture thing; in our part of the world, perhaps it is slightly more from left field than you may imagine. But then, where do we lay the line on 'faithfulness' in a marriage?
Is chatting with someone else showing a lack of faith? Is the line at hugging? Kissing? ***ing? I would say that if you are emotionally bonded, the biological aspects are of an academic relevance.
But if your better half is emotionally bonded with someone else, does that mean your marriage is over?
What I'm trying to say is - in today's age of faster and quicker connections, the bonds and definitions of marriage need a revision.
Dude, he's right the same happened to me, my EX-girlfriend crashed on my best friend, it was so obvious, so i knew the end, but i couldn't take her back and... I lose her, so at the end i let her go for her happiness not mine, so i ended up alone, with my friend, obviously she tried with him and ended up with another friend of mine LOL, if u can tell him friend XD, so if u really love her if she stills stands with u there's a chance of taking her back, if u really love her don't let her go until the end, but remember Zaratustra when he said that he would like the earth scrambles each time when a man stays with a goose
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Okay. Your relationship reminds me so much of my parents relationship. My mom is extroverted, my dad is antisocial. She comes home and cooks and cleans and exercises and he comes home and watches tv all night and goes to bed at 8:30 and reads until he falls asleep. She has tons of friends and keeps busy all the time, he has none (I'm not saying you have no friends, but you clearly don't have tons). The bad news is that eventually my mom couldn't take it anymore and got so bored that she has gone outside of their marriage for the fulfillment that she just doesn't get from my dad. They've been married for 30 years, so believe me, she has tried.
I don't know your wife but as an outsider, it is my opinion that there is no way she is not sleeping with this other guy. It's not normal for a wife to go away for a week with another man. Not even close to normal. You're a man: would you go away on holiday for a week, alone with a woman, and not expect to get some? To her credit (still just my opinion) at least she's being semi honest with you. She could have told you she was going away with a girlfriend.
Your wife is aging, but she still looks good. She's still "got it." She is bored with you. "Release" and "escape" is code for "I need something new and exciting." She is practically screaming for your attention.
What about you? You're aging too; think it's time to come out of your shell and enjoy life while there's still time? Take weekend trips with her. Road trips, camping, go find small cute towns to wander around in. Put some romance back into your marriage. Start working out with her, go for long walks together when you get home from work, go hiking on the weekends. You better show some effort or you're going to lose her.
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I agree with her...again.
People are different and have different taste. My fiance likes some stupid things and I don't but yet she doesn't understand why I like my things. However, minus my FIRST question on "Is it Normal," I haven't cheated on my fiance nor has she cheated on me.
People are different and require different things. However, no way in hell would she ever just want to "vacation" with a different guy or let me talk to my exgirlfriend before her. It is just common sense in a relationship and we both set boundaries for the other like that.
Hi Jenny! Thanks for taking your time out for such a comprehensive reply. With your handicap of having to analyse on the mere paragraph, and not knowing us in person, you have hit a few nails pretty close to the head.
In fact, I have pledged a few days ago to seriously lose the extra kilos. The walks with my wife are also on.
I guess I just need to stay positive and engage her more wholesomely.
While I am the quiet type, I am not a total introvert; however, I do need to take more interest in others, be more social, so to say.
The aspect of my wife sleeping with the other man- well, I can put it down to a culture thing; in our part of the world, perhaps it is slightly more from left field than you may imagine. But then, where do we lay the line on 'faithfulness' in a marriage?
Is chatting with someone else showing a lack of faith? Is the line at hugging? Kissing? ***ing? I would say that if you are emotionally bonded, the biological aspects are of an academic relevance.
But if your better half is emotionally bonded with someone else, does that mean your marriage is over?
What I'm trying to say is - in today's age of faster and quicker connections, the bonds and definitions of marriage need a revision.
Dude, he's right the same happened to me, my EX-girlfriend crashed on my best friend, it was so obvious, so i knew the end, but i couldn't take her back and... I lose her, so at the end i let her go for her happiness not mine, so i ended up alone, with my friend, obviously she tried with him and ended up with another friend of mine LOL, if u can tell him friend XD, so if u really love her if she stills stands with u there's a chance of taking her back, if u really love her don't let her go until the end, but remember Zaratustra when he said that he would like the earth scrambles each time when a man stays with a goose