If she's drinking every day or something I could see a reason to be concerned. I think that what your sister is doing is very responsible.
My parents sheltered me a lot. I ended up really resentful and the first few times I drank were painful experiences. Actually quit drinking for a year after the first time I got drunk I was so sick after. Point being I didn't think they trusted me to be responsible, so I went out on my own with no knowing of what I was doing and got into some bad situations.
I feel that it's important to take away that taboo of drinking, many other countries don't have such a high drinking age and they tend to have better results than we do. Making it this lofty thing that you must wait to be an adult for is putting a big red "DO NOT PRESS" button on something that is already a huge source of temptation for children. You'll probably find out sooner or later it's not as easy to control a teenagers behavior as you might think.
My sorta-boyfriends family has this interesting method with their kids... once they're so old, 16 or 17 or so, they'll let them drink as much as they want without supervision, so that they can learn their limits in a safe place with people to look after them. I was lucky enough to be with responsible people the first time I got sick, but not everyone is so understanding and helpful as those guys were to me.
IIN for my sister to let her 16 year old daughter drink alcohol?
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If she's drinking every day or something I could see a reason to be concerned. I think that what your sister is doing is very responsible.
My parents sheltered me a lot. I ended up really resentful and the first few times I drank were painful experiences. Actually quit drinking for a year after the first time I got drunk I was so sick after. Point being I didn't think they trusted me to be responsible, so I went out on my own with no knowing of what I was doing and got into some bad situations.
I feel that it's important to take away that taboo of drinking, many other countries don't have such a high drinking age and they tend to have better results than we do. Making it this lofty thing that you must wait to be an adult for is putting a big red "DO NOT PRESS" button on something that is already a huge source of temptation for children. You'll probably find out sooner or later it's not as easy to control a teenagers behavior as you might think.
My sorta-boyfriends family has this interesting method with their kids... once they're so old, 16 or 17 or so, they'll let them drink as much as they want without supervision, so that they can learn their limits in a safe place with people to look after them. I was lucky enough to be with responsible people the first time I got sick, but not everyone is so understanding and helpful as those guys were to me.