Is it normal for my sex drive to be low?

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Okay, first off I'm a girl, 18 years old. I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years, I'm on birth control pills. At first, all was good, we were both virgins so we were having sex like bunnies.. but lately.. I just don't really wanna have sex..

like he's always trying to finger me and touch me and I'm just like no.
like yeah it feels good.. but I don't want it
he usually has to like massage me long before I give it up...

is it normal ? that I just don't love sex as much anymore...
I think my birth control could be effecting it.

what do you think?

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  • ProseAthlete
    10 years ago | pl

    See your gyno and talk to her/him about it. It could be your birth control, or it could be other hormonal issues you have going on. It's also possible that it's related to some other issue with your boyfriend, but if everything else seems good there, it's probably just your BC.

    If your boyfriend's always after you for sex, that can do it too. You don't get a chance to find out if you want it or not because he's already initiating it, if that makes sense. Have an open, honest talk with him about how you need a little down time when you aren't feeling pressured to perform.

    If you can't have an open, honest talk with him about your sex life, then I agree with Mando -- new boyfriend time. :P

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  • thinkingaboutit
    10 years ago | pl

    it's your birth control.

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  • JakobWithaK77
    7 years ago | pl

    Too much of something gets old, like say if you went to this place you really liked everyday, it would get boring after about a month. You pretty much fucked to much and now its old

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  • Nokiot9
    8 years ago | pl

    If it is a hormone thing, it's pretty easily corrected. Talk to your doctor or gynecologist.

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  • ccjigsaw
    10 years ago | pl

    Birth control can effect this for sure. Try exercise, that help the labido a lot :)

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  • forever_anon
    10 years ago | pl

    Lower libido is a common side effect of many oral contraceptives. Switching to a different pill (preferably one with a lower dose of hormones) or trying another method should help if the pill is the issue. I also agree with ProseAthlete's suggestion to talk to your boyfriend and ask for some down time. You may want sex more often if you're not feeling pressured to perform.

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  • quentari
    10 years ago | pl

    Possibly the pill, I got hormonal as shit when I was on the pill. Now I'm using the implant and it's increased my libido to the point of fucking crazy lol

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  • wcdgh
    10 years ago | pl

    My mom is so hot she poots short skirts on and bends ofer I can see her pussy I want it

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  • Mando
    10 years ago | pl

    You need a new boyfriend?

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    • Mando
      10 years ago | pl

      Hey! Why was this voted down? It's a reasonable hypothesis. She's 18 and been screwing the same guy since she was 16. Duh?

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      • quentari
        10 years ago | pl

        she might *le gasp* love him?

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        • Mando
          10 years ago | pl

          Well - I'm all for love .. but ....this isn't it ....

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          • quentari
            10 years ago | pl

            it might be, who knows? I know some 16 year olds are really immature about love, but some do find their "soul mate" (or whatever) in high school. At the very least, she may love him enough to not want to break up with him just because they've been together 2 years and any longer and it will break the invisible "seriousness" barrier lol

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