Is it normal for my parents to act like this?

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Hi, my name is Chris and im 26 years old. Me and my girlfriend who I knew for 2 years now and have a strong relationship with wants me to move to Canada to be with her and the kids. Prior to that I visited her for about 6 weeks and we had a blast. When I got back home to my parents place in the US, we started missing each other. But when I told them about the situation, my parents wanted me to stay to get my life set up before I move there however I can get my life started there with a job and a work visa (if and when I find a job down there) that I can get down there but with just passport I can just stay in Canada for only 6 months. So basically my situation is this I can get all the stuff to be in Canada but my parents wont let me go to be with her (fights broke out because of this between everyone), my parents think I cant support myself and 3 kids and I want to be with her, is this really normal and how can I deal with this situation? Cause really she wants to move on with her life and I want to be with her.

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  • joybird
    12 years ago

    I really don't understand when you say that your parents won't let you go ... ? Do you mean that you need their financial support to get there?

    My sister is in a similar situation as your girl friend with 4 children and it is deeply frowned upon that she has a man there taking up the time that she should be spending with her children. She chose to have them so it's up to her to bring them up!

    I doubt very much that your relationship would last as it's hard enough with 2 people but you have 5 people to consider and as the kids aren't yours you will resent all your wages being spent on clothes, shoes, entertainment, etc for them. I only have one child and they are a VERY expensive item!!!

    I think your parents are only trying to protect you and save you learning the hard way.

    It's up to you - but if it's meant to be, she'll still be your girlfriend in 10 years time when the children are old enough to understand.

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  • ck38
    12 years ago

    Move to Canada. Don't live with the girl but live close by then you can 'date' and get yourself set first before taking on the responsibility of a potential wife and three children. You can then take your time to make any big decisions and judge better if it's going to work out. Good luck

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  • necrosslich
    12 years ago

    Thank You :)

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  • BfingIToucher
    12 years ago

    So these are not your kids, right? Are you ready to be their father, emotionally and financially? Are you planning to marry her? If things don't work out -- and it does sound like quite a leap of faith -- it is not about just the two of you but also three innocent children. I can understand your parents' worry, honestly. That's a big move. Then again, you are 26. You can make your own decisions, but I would at the least try and understand where your parents are coming from. They most likely do have some wisdom about life that simply comes from experience and with age. Best wishes to you.

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