Is it normal for my mother to keep adopting children?

Alright so my mother decided to adopt 4 children a few years ago. Out of the 4, 3 are blood related and under the age of 10 (theyre 7, 8, and 9). The other one is 14 years old now but we have had him since he was about 12. Anyways now she wants to adopt the three siblings of the 14 year old. These siblings ages 11, 4, and a 1 year old stayed with their birth mother by choice.

Now the mother has lost her children again and they are asking my mother if she would like to adopt if it was possible. My mother was glad to be out of the foster care system so it confuses me that she says if it is an option she would like to re obtain her foster parent license and eventually adopt the three children.

I am drained just to hear that. I'm a young adult of 18 and I love the kids I have in my home now. However, that would make seven kids and I think it is too much and not fair either. Am I being selfish? Is it normal for my mother to keep adopting? I feel like she doesn't care about what her REAL kid wants.

Is It Normal?
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  • I'd try to influence your Mother to stop adopting children. In the future, it could surely manifest itself into an obsession of sorts. You wouldn't want to end up with 20 brothers and sister, right? Just pull her aside and kindly talk to her about it. You're not being selfish dear, you're being completely logical.

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  • I wonder whether your mother is adopting because you have now entered adulthood and she doesn't feel you need her so much any more. It can be hard for a parent to let go.

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    • She told me that is why she adopted the first set of my new brothers and sisters but I just do not understand why she would like more. I believe she feels bad for them because she knows the mother who is losing them personally through the system but still. I just can't take anymore.

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  • is you mother rich?

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    • eh were middle class people but we are not hurting that bad however more kids would be a real stretch

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      • I really think you should talk to her about it... Its really noble to wanna help children but, at some point someone else have to take over, you can do as much.

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  • Yeah talk to btw is she wealth?if yes than maybe she feels she can take care of them that why she wants more,

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  • Ur moms is crazy, tell her don't do it!

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