Is it normal for my husband to not want to talk to his kids about sex?

My husband of 2 years has 3 boys aged 13, 12, and 10. They are ALL going through puberty and he refuses to talk to them about sex. Is this normal? My step sons have come to me with questions about sex, masturbation, and puberty. I have answered their questions openly and honestly, but I feel that it is their fathers responsibility to talk to them about these things not mine. I have concerns because the 13 and the 10 year old sleep in the same bed together, by choice. They have their own beds, but want to sleep together. I do NOT think this is normal, and I am worried that things are going on that shouldn't be. I have expressed my concerns to my husband, and he refuses to discuss them. I ask him to talk to them about masturbating and he won't do it. I told him if he doesn't talk to them pretty soon they are going to learn from other kids, or TV, movies etc... I want them to know what is appropriate and what isn't appropriate behavior but I don't feel it should be my responsibility as the step-mom to do so. The 12 year old is having wet dreams, and hard ons and doesn't understand what is happening to his body, yet his father still won't have "The Talk" with any of them.

Is It Normal?
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  • Too young

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  • what kind of parents talk to their kids about sex? that's highly inappropriate not to mention awkward.

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  • its totally normal for parents not to want to have "the talk" with they`re children. i sure as hell didn't. but it is essential to the healthy emotional and sexual growth of a person. i got through it and so can he just tell him to cowboy up get the job done. a mans gotta do what a mans gotta do.

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  • he is probably in denial. he doesnt want to believe that his kids are old enough to learn about sex and it probably makes him feel old too. still, he is very selfish to not want to involve himself in his own childrens lives. sex education is pretty important nowadays because so there are so many unwanted teen pregnancies and STDs. but i am hoping that they would have already learned a little bit from school. assuming they still teach kids about sex in school.

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  • Just let them learn the same way everyone else with neglectful parents has: The internet.

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  • I never was given the talk but i did only live my mum and i was always thankful cos that would have been one akward converstaion, although she did once walk in when i was shagging two girls at the same time so that made up for it in the embarrasing department.

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  • There is a need...especially if two confused boys going through puberty are sharing the same bed. If your husband can't put on his "big girl panties" then good for you for stepping up!

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  • Parents having to deal with the talk feel just as awkward as the kid trying to understand. Lol. But we all have to grow smarter and bolder. Even parents.

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